If ever there was a story which highlighted everything that’s wrong with the fostering system in England, it’s this list of wishes from a child in care, published today.
The child, who wishes to remain anonymous, reflects on their life in care and the things they hoped would have happened differently.
In one of the paragraphs, the child asks foster carers not to leave foster children out. The example of biological children receiving easter eggs or advent calendars and foster children not being gifted the same items is heart breaking. What kind of foster parent would discriminate against a vulnerable child, or any child in that way? The kind that’s clearly not fit to be a parent, and most likely using the child as a means to extending their income.
In another paragraph, the child recalls being treated as if they had a lower level of intelligence for being in a wheelchair.
There are however some positive memories for this child as well, but not enough to mask the obvious disappointment and pain you can feel in the piece. The prerequisite that foster parents also have a genuine desire to understand a foster child’s culture, race or religious identity is also on the ‘wish list’.
The experience above is an extract from a new book, called Welcome to Fostering: A Guide to Becoming and Being a Foster Carer. That it takes a child to say these things, and that a book needs to be made to spell these things out, is deeply embarrassing for us all.
maureenjenner said:
This trumpets the fact that those fostering children are far from being on a wish list of suitable candidates for the job. Why are people so ill prepared accepted for the job? Why have humans lost their instinct to nurture?
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maureenjenner said:
Reblogged this on Musings of a Penpusher and commented:
This trumpets the fact that those fostering children are far from being on a wish list of suitable candidates for the job. Why are people so ill prepared accepted for the job? Why have humans lost their instinct to nurture?
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Roger Crawford said:
Not embarrassing for all of us, Natasha. Look at how many commented on your last subject, forced adoption. 24 when I last looked, not one supporting the system. How many times do you get 24 comments on one subject, all of the same voice? Fostering has become a business, not only for many of the individuals who foster but also for the SS. As has forced adoption. No wonder we have the unhappiest children in Europe (UNICEF).
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tummum said:
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Sabine Kurjo McNeill said:
Reblogged this on No Punishment without Crime or Bereavement without Death!.
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daveyone1 said:
Reblogged this on World4Justice : NOW! Lobby Forum..
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drmanhattan62 said:
this is simply awful and hard to believe. it really does point the finger at the foster care industry being more about making money than actual loving care for children being a priority. very very sad indeed.
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Peter said:
I recently had a social worker tell me that there’s no money in fostering , this is a perfect example of an experienced s/w protecting the fostering system, hopefully this article will open social workers and others eyes to the reality of what’s happening to these children while in care. A big well done to this child for speaking out because in my experience a lot are silenced using various methods.
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