Researching Reform continues its “image of the month” series with Artist In Residence Paul Brian Tovey, an artist and adult adoptee who was abused by his adoptive parents as a child.
Paul campaigns for adoptees to have the legal right to revert back to their birth identities and connects with adoptees around the world.
Paul’s paintings reflect his experiences as an adoptee including the effect of his forced adoption on his mental health.
This month’s painting is titled, “Going Home To The Lord Of The Bone” and includes a poem, which is meant to be read alongside the art:
Speaking to Researching Reform about this month’s featured art, Paul said:
“Art’s a journey and for some of us Trauma-Adoptees it’s a dark one but also made of the human spirit wanting to understand and see into Adoption’s hidden social and personal dynamics.
As the Guiding Child might say: “We must be dogged on the journey and be aided by doggedness but even must see that dogs with a bone must let go and fall into the spaces of special emptiness… Mourning… Where even the bones disappear…. Poor bucket needs carrying… He gets full up this time of year…Walk into the picture and feel it – is the simple invitation.
Travelling through new Christmas’s means for me the old trauma of losses of family at 6 and many other “Living” losses come to the fore. Moreso in old age. I have a galaxy library of memories and years. Many remain as dark from loss of family. As I grew up I knew I had other sisters nearby – three in all in fact.
So every Christmas I wear the twisted muscle spasms and thorns of that. It happens.. Just happens. And I draw and draw and walk the walk again. It’s a destiny really, to make Art like this. A neurosis looking after itself as best it can. A catharsis eventually as the snows fall on your face and melt in your eyes.
Each snowflake will have written into it: “Family” I will never really have. I can mourn though in my own way…. Yes …. I gained back the power to cry and express my own truth.. My Christmas present.”
We remain thankful to Paul for allowing us to showcase his work, and his talent, which deserve recognition.

Very nice art work Paul.
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I am sure readers would all be interested in the life story of that wonderful artist if Paul is willing to tell it . Questions I would ask would be ,
Did you track down your birth parents and find out how and why you were taken for adoption?
Are they still alive and did you have good contact with them?
Did you have good or indifferent contact with the sisters and other relations you eventually tracked down?
Do you still have any contact with your adoptive parents and how did they abuse you?
What changes in the laws do you suggest? You know what I continually ask for ! But, Sometimes alas adoption really is the only answer (eg) if the baby is left on the church steps and the mother vanishes for good !
Maybe it is all still too painful for you to discuss, and if so please ignore my intrusion……..
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Hi Ian, Paul told his story in a piece I wrote for The Independent a while back. It’s on RR. Try searching for his name on the site.
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A very impressive piece of journalism Natasha !
Highly recommended……….
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Thank you sir.
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