Welcome to another week.
These are the child welfare items that should be right on your radar:
- “Adoption is trauma, and no child — or natural parent — should ever have to go through it.”
- Russian sanctioned by UK over ‘forced adoptions’ of Ukrainian children
- How a cancer diagnosis helped me find my natural father
Researching Reform 
“Adoption is trauma, and no child — or natural parent — should ever have to go through it.”
Same goes for Forced foster care and special guardianship orders.
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I found it painful to read about the Adoptee .. My post traumatic personality wears triggers like others wear functionality . That’s “my normality” ..
But 30+ years of therapy for me has given me serious tolerances to the paradoxical states of both feeling personal truth and travelling into the skin of others via that terrible bridge of empathic connection… The costly one, of feeling feelings inwardly and outwardly for “Self and Others” ..In the mix of life as we all are.
Adoption SHOULD NEVER HAPPEN , only Guardianship which does not sever identity, kinship knowledge, and ties ….One has to have more than an anchor of simple cognitive maps too about birth relatives because feeling massive feelings of rage and murderousness is part of what some of us can feel for our Adopters and even the birth mothes who “let us down” …Gave us a bin to live in ..We need anchors of crying and grief .. Sometimes everlastingly .. We need our primal wounds to have primal rights of grief unleashed ..
I feel resolved to see that Adoption can be less painful for some but for others it is a monstrous nightmare and sanity survival is difficult .. Expected to be another identity when you are your own core-self of primal power and biology is just fucking torture ..
I understand many Adoptees .. Some whom are less hurt and some who have to have therapy for years or help like me .. And some who are dead because Adoption was that soul-murdering to them ..
It’s a weeping matter for me .. I am old and poor souls have been lost to a monstrous process of legal artifice made socially acceptable ..xxx .. Thank you for the tears ..
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“Adoption SHOULD NEVER HAPPEN , only Guardianship which does not sever identity, kinship knowledge, and ties …”
Hi Paul,
In our case The special Guardianship order did sever identity ( she got the court to agree to her changing our childrens names to her name ),
kinship knowledge,and ties …” ( they know nothing about their family now or their older sibling. they have been cut off and isolated from us for 7 years by the special guardian who got the judge on her side with the help of the LA solicitor. )
SO JUST AS BAD AS ADOPTION IM AFRAID.
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I think adoption is a wonderful thing for a child abandoned on the church steps orleft floating down the river .What after all is the alternative?
However “forced adoption” where parent(s) fight desperately but usually hopelessly to keep their children with them is in my opinion a wicked crime and in an ideal world the perpetrating ,judges,and social workers and psycho experts should all be locked up
for nice long stretches! .
PS Apologies for my recent absence in hospital ( age 90) with a broken ankle and a bout of Covid !
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Hi Ian, thank you for your comment and so sorry to hear about your health – glad you’re fully recovered, and hats off to you for being so resilient at 90.
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” “forced adoption” where parent(s) fight desperately but usually hopelessly to keep their children with them is in my opinion a wicked crime and in an ideal world the perpetrating judges and social workers and psycho experts should all be locked up
for nice long stretches! ”
I completely agree as many of these despicable people should be jailed for crimes against humanity.
Good to hear from you Ian, hope you are recovering well after your recent health problems.
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