A greeting card congratulating people for adopting children has sparked a furious backlash on Facebook.
The card, which is being sold in Tesco supermarkets in the UK, says: “Congratulations on your adoption. You don’t have to be born into a family to be a big part of one.”
The card was posted in a closed Facebook group with more than 1,500 members on Tuesday by one of the group’s admin staff after it was spotted in a Tesco’s branch.
The group, which supports parents who have lost their children to forced adoption in England and Wales, was flooded with comments shortly after the card was posted on their Facebook page.
One of the admin members for the group wrote: “Tesco selling adoption cards celebrating a FORCED Adoption – whatever next – well done TESCO 
They don’t realise we are dealing with 3 parent suicides in the last 2 to 3 weeks as their children were FORCED Adopted never for the parents to see them again.”
Another poster said: “Some people do it for the right reasons but it is a kick in the teeth for those whom have had their child forcibly removed x”
Parents in the group offered suggestions such as: placing “forced adoption” stickers on the cards to raise public awareness about adoption practices in Britain; writing to the customer complaints department at Tesco; and holding protests outside the stores demanding the cards are removed from the shelves.
Several parents reacted strongly to the image of the card. One mother simply posted, “F***ing sick!” While another parent wrote, “Wtf can’t believe that. It’s depressing knowing that our children are not gonna be with us and now this. Sick c**ts whatever next 😡🤬.”
One father added, “Anywhere that supports adoption will not be getting my money. I will not be shopping in Tesco’s any longer. They should be ashamed of themselves.”
While there is still very little research about how child removals affect fathers, emerging research about mothers who lose their children to foster care confirms that they are more likely to commit suicide than mothers whose children are not fostered.
In one study, the researchers discovered that suicide rates among women who lost their children to foster care was almost three times higher and the death rate almost four times higher than those mothers whose children had not gone into foster care.
A second study held that mothers whose children were placed in care were almost five times more likely to die from avoidable causes such as unintentional injury and suicide, and almost three times more like to die from unavoidable causes, including car accidents and heart disease.
And a third study found that when a mother lost her child to the care system, her physical and mental health became significantly worse.
The UK is one of only a small number of countries implementing forced adoption policies which allow the state to remove children from parents without their consent. Parents whose children are placed for adoption often spend several years inside the legal system fighting to get their children back.
Forced, non consensual or involuntary adoption is viewed by most countries as an outdated and harmful practice, which has been overtaken by consensual and open adoptions in the majority of countries around the world.
Many thanks to Tum Mum for alerting us to this development.
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This is the hardest time of year for many natural or blood parents where the adoption hits them even harder and feels so raw, no matter how long ago it was.
We also see support groups or groups showing the extra support at this time of year, in the hope it will help save lives.
But then more compassion should be shown for the adopted children who could see these cards and it cause them emotional harm and heartache, for the ones who remember and miss their natural family’s 💔🕊️🦋 Xx
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my comment below gives a named contact at Tesco if we can get enough people to voice concerns about this maybe we can get these removed from sale.
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This is totally sick especially this time of year and many mothers an father’s hurting soo deeply also children services police lie lie naturally evil for money for local authorities it has to stop no laws need to change for parents and children it effects the rest if there live s it’s shameful never asked local authorities for help they take it for weakness and next you know lawyers barrister whom all work and make money out of children now legal aid impossible how you surpose to fight back parents have rights and children disgusting malicious government tesco must be attachment with certain so call charities for money involved I long term fostercare also private an adoption people need to know exactly what they doing and getting away with
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I used to think, without knowing anything, that adoption was a ‘nice’ thing to do. To care for an unwanted or unloved or terribly maltreated child. But then I became a victim of domestic abuse and SS took my completely unharmed child on the grounds that, even though I had left the abuse, I might go looking to get abused again in future. Now I understand that there are vast profits involved which explain the massive corruption in a secret court system where social workers lie with complete impunity. I like to think that that if I had ever actually considered adoption myself I would have done enough research to discover the heartbreak behind forced adoption but the system thrives because basically people do not look into it. They don’t want to. Adopters want a baby, They want to feel good about taking someone else’s baby and they even want others to praise them for it – this card does exactly that.
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FORCED adoption is a barbaric inhuman practice that needs to be abolished. Denying a child of it’s legal birth right is child cruelty
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My 2 younger siblings and I were adopted (forced adoption) from Colombia, by an American child sex predator and his complicit wife. His name was [edited] This man sexually abused his OWN sisters and raped the youngest sister who was 8 years old. Turns out my adoptive father TOLD my adoptive mother about the sisters LONG before us kids were ever in the picture. She helped him adopt children, KNOWING his history!! One of the sisters advised [edited] Children’s Services adoption agency that this man was a child sex predator and rapist and should not be allowed to adopt children. My siblings and I arrived to [edited] the summer of [edited]. I was 6 years old. It was THE BEGINNING OF THE END for us kids. At 8 years old I told the [edited] Police in secret and in detail that my adoptive father was sexually abusing me. I ran back home and waited for them to come save me and my siblings. NOBODY EVER CAME. 6 years later, I threatened my adoptive father, because I had just told my adoptive mother and she refused to end the abuse and went crazy that he could lose his job! I told [edited] my adoptive father, that if he ever touched my younger siblings or if he ever touched me again, I’d kill him. He called the [edited] Police. 2 officers were at the door within 15 minutes. The police told me they’d take me to a friend’s house for safety (sexual abuse) because my adoptive mother did not want my adoptive father to have to leave the home. I got into the back of the squad car. It was near midnight but I could tell it was not to my friend’s house. I told the police this was not to my friend’s and asked them where we were going. They informed me, that they were transporting me to the state mental institution. I was found not to have metal illness and I was not crazy, so the instruction tried sending me back home, but my adoptive mother told them I was no longer welcome in their home, so I was placed in a group home for troubled youth and delinquents, despite I’d never been in any trouble and I was not a delinquent. This adoption and massive systemic failure and cover up, ruined my life, my little sister’s life, and it ultimately inadvertently ended in my little brother [edited]’s death. At 25 years old he was found with a rifle in his mouth. I don’t know how someone shoots themselves 6 times in their mouth. The same county that failed decades ago, again are failing us, because they refuse to look further into my little brothers death. My adoptive father was a beloved pillar of the community and a [edited] teacher. Please look at the multiple news stories on online news channel 3000, Fox47.com, also Madison, WI local tv news channels 3 and 27. The story has appeared in the Wisconsin State Journal and multiple small Wisconsin news papers. I’m trying to get the world to listen to this unbelievable story, without much success, despite it being on my Facebook and news. I’d swear it’s a story some have tried to staunch out, because it implicates state authorities on many different levels from many different branches, of illegal and highly unethical practices. There’s a LOT more to this story, but this is it in a nutshell.
My siblings and I would have rather starved to DEATH in our homeland, with our biological parents, than to have LIVED with our sick and dysfunctional adoptive parents. I am shocked at the depth of corruption that me and my siblings have come to see and PERSONALLY experience in this “Great Nation” The United States of America. My siblings and I’ve yet to see that this is the “Great Nation” it boasts and advertises to be.
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England is exactly the same
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well it needs to stop
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I understand why this has sparked a lot of anger in parents because of forced adoptions. I am currently in a battle that has been ongoing for 8months where they took 3 of my children with police powers then took my newborn son at 2days old who is now 3 weeks. But parents have to remember that some adoptions are a good thing for those unwanted babies & children by parents & by children that truly have been abused. I was adopted at the age of 3 with my brother 2 & my sister one. I had suffered sexual abuse by my father & my baby sister almost died through being dumped in her cot & forgotten about. However my adoptive mother had a temper & she was abusive but social work failed to intervene due to the fact that my mother was a church goer, well known & well liked in the community but not all children that are adopted through necessity will have had the same bad experience as I did I think in those situations it’s unfair to judge all cases of adoption the same. My sister almost died & I suffered greatly god only knows what would have happened if we had not been taken & I don’t believe in god.
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Nobody is saying that children should be left to be abused and that is exactly the argument which is so easily used to justify taking thousands of UNHARMED children from their homes every year. Please do not suggest that there are any great number of ‘unwanted’ babies either – if there were this lucrative child protection industry would not exist. Women tend to fall in love with babies they have just given birth to – it’s biological.
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If you were adopted at aged 3, allowing for the court process, you must have been even younger than that when you were removed from your family. I am just wondering, how much of what happened do you actually remember as opposed to being what you have been told? I do not want to offend you, I only ask because I have been absolutely horrified by the extremely serious, and very numerous, lies told by social workers which must go on to form the adopted child’s belief about themselves and their families. I totally support removing children from genuine abuse and neglect but not from innocent parents about whom everything gets twisted beyond all recognition.
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Tesco’s management have no idea they are doing anything wrong and thats because most of the country including all those educated nitwits at No 10 downing st think adoption is nothing more than giving a new home to genuine needy children. Michael Gove was adopted himself as a baby and he thinks more children should be taken from underprivileged families and placed with well to do adoptive parents so they can have better opportunities. Its like a page from Orwell’s 1984. So twisted its beyond belief. I’m sure the lower classes are seen as nothing more than baby making farm animals who unwittingly end up supply a baby farmers market.
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Exactly. I’m sure the middle classes genuinely believe that their big house, garden and spare room are just exactly what is best for someone else’s baby. I heard someone talking in the school yard about how wonderful it was that their friend had adopted a 4 hour old baby and how that child would now be assured of a ‘better life.’ They didn’t even seem to question how a 4 hour old baby could possibly have come to any harm whilst at the hospital with it’s mother, or, if she was the drug addict SS probably made her out to be, why the baby was perfectly healthy. The middle classes especially are just so entitled they don’t even ask questions.
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Reply received from Tesco:
Thank you for your email about the cards we sell to celebrate adoption. It’s clear that this is something you care deeply about and I appreciate you taking the time to share your concerns with us.
I have shared your comments with my colleagues who decide which cards we sell. We are always reviewing our ranges and feedback like this is really helpful in helping us to decide what we will stock in future.
Thank you for contacting us about this.
Kind regards,
Lewis Gorrie
Customer Service Specialist
Tel: 0800 072 6685
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Thank you Vics, this is an interesting development. Are you following up to ask whether they will be removing or keeping the card?
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I will do but am rather hoping others may contact this same person at Tesco as there is obviously strength in numbers.
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Tesco now have an even wider range of adoption cards and I also found this:
https://www.ccsadoption.org/blog/thank-you-tesco/
I will not be spending anything at Tesco now!
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