In our second podcast, the Voice of the Child speaks with a mum who lost her two children through non-consensual adoption practices in the UK family courts.
A victim of forced marriage in her home country, and sexually trafficked in several locations around the world, Moksha* finally found safety in the UK.
She reached out to her local council for help acclimatising to life in the UK and for her daughter’s schooling. She never expected social services to take her children away.
Despite distancing herself from her abusive partner and showing signs of significant improvement in her mental health, social workers refused to consider reuniting Moksha with her children.
In this interview, Moksha talks about what happened to her and her children, how she navigated the court process without legal aid, and what she saw inside her local council and the court room.
Many thanks to Legal Action for Women (LAW), for organising this interview. And a special thank you to Moksha for courageously telling her story.
You can listen to the podcast here.
*Moksha is a pseudonym.
A heartrending account of how Social Services and the family courts fail birth mothers, stigmatising people who need help, support and most importantly understanding. In Moksha’s own words they ripped her family apart. She comes across as a highly articulate, sensitive and intelligent lady but in this heartless process of forced adoption birth family members must not disclose their true feelings or they will be stigmatised for being unstable. How can a loving mum hide her agony and despair having had her children forcibly removed and then adopted by strangers? The process is cold hearted and consequently both parents and children suffer, not even allowed to speak their own language in contact. It is too horrendous for words. I would like to see this practice of forced adoption come to an end and replaced by a more humane solution.
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Thank you. Will have a listen later. I must have missed part 1.Can you link me to that one too please Xxxx
Hi TumTum, the first podcast was about child refugees with Lord Dubs. If you click on the link in this podcast post, you can then click on the RR Soundcloud page which houses the podcasts busy clicking on the phrase Researching Reform. Xxxxx
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That’s great. Thank you Xxxx
[Name Withheld] said:
This is exactly what happened to us as a family,I asked for help for my daughter because of her mental health issues,when she was in her youth she went through a bad time because of mixing with wrong people,she was vulnerable and could of got into danger,local authorities were useless,if it wasnt for me,she would of been dead.
After many years later She got into a violent relationship,her ex partner and the social services got involved knowing he was violent to her as a teenager and my daughter being vulnerable but were happy for him to live in the family home with her and the kids they eventually closed the case.
Then one day I found bruises on my daughter,she lied told me she fell down the stairs but I didnt believe her so reported this to the police and they came to me telling me theres no cause of concern,the family are fine.
Then my other daughter recieved fb messages off her sister my vulnerable daughter saying hes hurting her and the kids.
I showed this to the police and then they went arrested him and the kids were taken into care.
We never got my grandchildren back,they are getting adopted next month by a gay couple.
They failed my assessment on the grounds that I knew she got back with her violent partner and I failed to report this when ss were there before I even knew about her getting involved with him.
I’m supposed to of failed to protect my daughter and my grandchildren so I failed for possible future harm also because of apparently failing to keep my teenage daughter safe a decade ago.
So there you go.
Nobody listens to you in court,I’ve sold my home to fund solicitors, baristers etc and yet never had a chance in getting my grandchildren back.
I’m still fighting but where will it get me?
This will harm my grandchildren and I cant do anything about it.
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Keith Brettwood said:
Moksha did well to talk about what she has gone through and i notice she was prevented from speaking to her child in their own language. something Ian Josephs mentions quite regular. the SS dont like it when they cant hear what you say to your kids.
on the Podcast side i just wanted to ask if you were using two separate mics as i notice Moksha was so low that i had to turn the volume to max but your Voice was very loud so had to turn it back down. also there was popping sounds from your mic and if its set on a mike stand do you use a pop filter ? on the Lord Dubs interview both volumes were fine and there were no popping noises from your mic. just thought i would mention it.
Hi Keith, it was the same mic in the same room, she just has a very soft voice.