A growing number of parents with children in care have become concerned that their children are being left to play violent video games while in fostering and adoption settings.
Children as young as seven are being left alone by carers to play video games with graphic violence, which birth parents say have led to their children displaying increased levels of aggression and anger.
A father told this site, “My son desperately wanted to stay in my care, but his wishes and feelings were ignored. After some time in foster care, he was a changed person. He began to show signs of aggression and depression after he became addicted to a violent video game. I was blamed for this happening, even though I was not looking after him.”
A mother whose son is no longer in care, said that she was initially penalised in child protection assessments for allowing her son to play non violent video games.
Another mother whose 7 year-old son is still in care, explained that she had asked her son’s foster carers not to let him play violent video games, but the foster carers ignored her request.
Violent video games and music with aggressive lyrics have sparked a global debate about whether this kind of content can alter children’s behaviour. That debate has given rise to a large volume of research which concludes that there is no definitive evidence to suggest that violent content is a key factor for aggressive behaviour in adults or children.
However, research suggests that external factors like abuse, neglect and emotional difficulties can make children more susceptible to violent content.
Children in care can often feel neglected and alone. Unable to express their feelings with people they feel safe with, some children in care appear to be lashing out in home and school settings after playing games like Halo, Fortnite and Call Of Duty.
Other children are finding comfort in music bands whose lyrics share anti-establishment messages. This kind of music is popular with young people, and should not be banned in a free society, but questions could arise when looking at some of these lyrics in the context of vulnerable children.
A mother said that her son had been traumatised deeply by his experience in care. She believes that his mental health difficulties, for which he takes medication, were aggravated by that experience, and he is now turning to bands like Suicideboys, which she says offers her son a connection.
“When my son started going downhill, it came out he’d been doing a lot of negative things he’d picked up from a band or group called Suicideboys. I only realised because he said he’d been listening to a song called “Kill Yourself Part III” by this band, and he’s even got a tattoo done called grey 59 connected up his lower arm.”
“He told us he likes listening to Suicideboys a lot because they help him. He said they get across a message not to take tablets as they’re the devil. I said don’t listen to that band, you need to trust the nurses and me instead and the people looking out for you, ” she said.
Suicideboys has received criticism by mainstream music critics for its aggressive image, lyrics and behaviour. Several of the band’s songs contain themes around devil worship. The band’s musicians have claimed that the use of satanic imagery in their lyrics is nothing more than a substitute for the negative effects of money and drugs.
The mother went on to explain that her son’s adoptive parents felt that video games could also be worsening his frail mental health.
“His adoptive parent thinks my son sometimes believes he’s been shot in real life. I think this is to do with video games. She mentioned to me that he plays a game where one gets shot and gets back up, when of course in real life that doesn’t happen.”
Research suggests that parents and carers can influence whether or not a child plays violent video games. The study, which was produced by Iowa State University in 2015, found that carers who were more anxious and emotional could affect the amount of violent video games their children played.
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Ian Josephs said:
“State Care” is the paedos paradise ! “Host” a a couple of kids and then get paid around £1200/week while you abuse them physically and sexually ! What could be better they say??
Nearly all those kids abused by celebrities like Jimmy Saville and Cyril Smith were in State Care as were most of those abused in Rotherham by the Pakistani Taxi drivers !
When they have paedos like that plus a few paedo social workers,guardians,and foster families lined up against them what chance do these poor kids have??
If they keep running off to their parents who love them they are caught and dumped into prisons called “restricted accommodation” and abused even worse……
One day this child traffiking will be stopped but only when the concience of the nation is aroused in the same way that it was many years ago to stop slavery……….
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This is scary stuff and serious xx
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[Name Withheld] said:
How can us parents live knowing our kids maybe suffering out there?
once they’re taken you never hear how they are or if they’re happy etc
It’s scary and it’s on your mind every day hoping they’re ok but we will never know anything,its worse than death,at least you know when a loved one dies they’re not suffering nomore and you know where they are,nomatter how much it hurts you can accept this more and learn to live with it.
But my grandchildren are somewhere out there and confused,they loved us ,we are their real family and they were ripped away from us!
This is not in the children best interest,this is inhumane,its emotional harm,they will grow wanting to find us and that is going to cause them mental health issues.
They are not adopted just yet but in a placement and I’m trying to fight all the way to get these kids back.
I wont give up, ever.