Welcome to another week.
The Bar Council has condemned judges who bully barristers during court proceedings and published guidance on how to deal with the matter. The guidelines, which offer barristers protection from judicial bullying, comes after lawyers complained that they were being intimidated, belittled and abused by judges during hearings.
No directions or support have been offered to families going through child welfare proceedings who have also experienced bullying by judges. If this has happened to you, Researching Reform would like to hear from you as we launch our campaign to demand that the justice system offer guidelines for families as well.
The guidance follows a recent judgment in which the Court of Appeal found that a judge had bullied a mother going through family law proceedings into agreeing to care orders for her two children. The Court of Appeal overturned the care orders issued by Her Honour Judge Carr QC, however Carr remains free to oversee cases and has not been held to account for the misconduct.
The Court of Appeal also found that the judge spoke sarcastically to the mother, threatened her, and made fun of the mother’s barrister.
The guidance from the Bar Council offers a list of behaviours which amount to judicial bullying and which should not be tolerated. The behaviours include sarcastic comments, threats and comments designed to embarrass and humiliate, all of which the mother experienced during her case.
The Guidance says:
“While all incidents must be judged in context, bullying involves behaviour such as –
• personal abuse,
• sarcasm,
• contemptuousness,
• unreasonable demands,
• relentless criticism,
• intemperate language,
• demeaning behaviour,
• comments designed to embarrass or humiliate.”
If you are a parent, guardian or family member who has experienced bullying, please leave a message below, and we will publish your experiences anonymously. Please also consider taking our Twitter survey if you use the social media platform. Thank you.
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It would probably be easier to only canvass comments from parents who HAVEN’T been bullied by judges, being the far smaller group!
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Ode to Solicitors ~ it starts with them…
A Solicitor, I might not be
But the written word I can see
And sadly what it’s shown to me
Is a legal process wasting money
Who seek to blame our economy
As they deprive people’s liberty
So before a Solicitor you might meet
Go knowing the deceit in their greet
As they look you in the eyes and warmly say
“You’ve come to the right place” and made my day
Cos your Legal Aid their wages will pay
As they manipulate the law for those whom they obey
Who sit in wigs stating I say, I say
Wake up people it’s time to read
Or victims we’ll remain for eternity
To a legal process disingenuously
Is not being used for the benefit of you and me
For the outcomes they seek they deem are in best interest
But will leave you broken and without peace and rest
And even fails the legal test
So with this knowledge you now know
Why families are broken and you sit alone
When the law is there to plainly see
Is to embrace the role of family
So as long as you can read, it’s a testimony
That assume makes an ass of you and me
And not all solicitors have integrity!!
By [edited]
Been there/family Court, Done that/COP, Wearing the T/Shirt under MHA 1983 process as parent of a survivor of brain injury also being deprived of education
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100% I fully agree with this whole statement .
How can this be so accepted within the Courts of Law . It’s all a power game and we as clients are pawns in the Chess game .
It is so unfair .
It seems to me that the more manipulation takes place then the truth goes out of the window .
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Litigants in Person suffer the most at the hands of corrupt judges who reject the evidence of expert witnesses and in their outcome driven judgements, pretend to rely upon the evidence of laymen who have perjured themselves. [edited]
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There needs to be an examination of outcome driven judgements by lay people and any judge found guilty of such, sacked. They are far from perfect. [edited]
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every time I go court im bullied into promoting unsafe contact with our abuser there is no best interests of the child
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I was told to enter the court room whereby without anyone saying anything the judge would had not been involved in the case said he would be considering taking my children into care or removing my eldest daughter from my care and she could live with the abuser. I was told afterwards that this was to scare me into coming up with a ‘solution’ to the six years of ‘arguing’ between mother and father. Normal caring parent and step parent who have NEVER been in trouble with the law, hard working, provide children with everything they can, have been treated appallingly at the hands of the family courts and Portsmouth Cafcass who cant even give eye contact. When is something going to change?
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Judge wouldn’t allow me to speak about my concerns for my children’s safety, cut my solicitor off at the middle of every sentence while trying to explain my side of the case, repeatedly made comments about me having no evidence of unsafe contact despite myself not even been given the chance to put my side across, belittled me and made me anxious and uneasy at the fact my concerns weren’t been listened to and therefore my children’s thoughts weren’t been viewed or taken seriously.
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there is no justice i a family court.
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Also when my barrister did speak to me at the end of the proceedings she told me that the judge had recommended to her i was sterilised at the age of 23!!! glad i didn’t listen because i now have a 3 year old who is in my care and no ss involvement at all. These judges and barristers are lethal with their advice and destroy any type of future for a family relationship.
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Do not hire a lawyer ,especially if advised to do so by “helpful social workers”! They want to WIN in court and they can only do that if they make sure that YOU LOSE!Solicitors and Barristers in the family courts are known in the trade as “Professional losers” because they work with the local authorities and gag parents in court to stop them making any useful points. They then agree to care orders and anything else the social workers want !If you do not engage a lawyer you will automatically represent yourself and can prepare a statement in advance(I can help you with this ) that you can read out loud to the judge !You do NOT need a solicitor or barrister who will just surrender to the “SS” !
I say again “BEWARE ,BEWARE ,BEWARE !!”
Most family lawyers are crooked solicitors or bent barristers who will betray you as they work for the SS not for you ! They are NOT on your side !
HOW DO YOU TELL WHO THEY ARE????It really is very very easy !!!These treacherous scoundrels gag their own clients and tell them to “work with social services” !(the very same people who make their living taking children and who perhaps took your’s) Yes they stop parents defending themselves and then agree with everything the “SS” demand !Sack on the spot,any lawyer that tries to gag you by not calling you to speak in court.
Yes there are a very few “honest lawyers” ;How do you tell who they are? Well, if they promise you to fight the social services every step of the way to keep your children or to get them back and also if they promise to let you speak so that you can make all the points you like (not just let you answer questions!) then you might have hit on a good’un !
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This has happened to me. I’ve been called a “liar” because they didn’t believe that my ex partner was abuskvr – when I then provided the evidence that ignored it. I’ve been heavily judged and my morals questioned because I’ve been pregnant 6 times; 3 pregnancy loss and one of my babies died – I only actually have 2 children. Despite this I’ve been criticised and have had literally no sympathy
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Thank you for sharing your experiences. I’m incredibly sorry for all you’ve been through.
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I was belittled and abused by the acting judge standing in at our final hearing, who admitted he hadn’t read the report with the social worker’s recommendations for safe access, disregarded the assault conviction, restraining order and ongoing investigation at the time into more serious allegations of abuse, encouraging direct and unsupervised contact and told me that I should be grateful that the father of my child is now showing interest and it will help me have a break at the end of the day when I’ve made food and finished doing my ironing because raising kids is hard!!!! He completely enabled and encouraged our abuser putting both my son and I at further risk, and when I brought up making a complaint I was told I would be better off accepting the flawed child arrangements order I had as a result of the hearing because the judges ‘close ranks’ and it would make things harder for me if I had to return to court to vary the order in the future 😦
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My child has had a year of NHS psychology appointments giving her coping strategies to cope with the continued court ordered abuse during contact at her fathers hands. This system is wrong. The child and both parents need to be heard by a judge and qualified abuse practitioner. A court room is no place to barter a child like a possession to come to agreement. Each lawyer, barrister and professional should be made to work solely for the benefit of the child no matter who engages them. The system is Victorian, abuse is not understood and I need my case supported to continue in the court room and through the child arrangement order. Should be termed, ‘The continuation of child abuse, but without the support or protection of the other parent, order.’
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I was dragged through courts for 24 months. My ex husband spent 30k trying to take kids off me. He attempted to murder his first wife when she ended their marriage. There was substancial evidence to confirm my children and I were victims of severe domestic abuse. The family courts empowered my ex, called me the girl that cried wolf. Threatened me with prison and losing my beloved children. I have severe ptsd. I worked for 25 years and can never work again after being revictamised by family court and Cafcass. It was barbaric.
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Absolutely. I had to hand over all types of documentation and he did not. International Childrens rights were not considered. Mental abuse. Mentioning this might even result in reprecausions.
No wonder many people are depressed, have health issues and humanity has become so selfcentered and afraid. Sad.
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The judge had prejudged the case before the trial in my family law case. It was clear to me from the beginning that stereotypes had been assumed by the judge and I was wasting my time. When the procedures of CAFCASS and the case worker were questioned, the judges leapt to the defence of the CAFCASS worker and stated her opinion that the worker was known to the judge and was honourable. This was before the CAFCASS workers judgement and processes could be questioned. The family court is able to hide behind the secrecy it enforces on parents to deny proper scrutiny of it’s judges and CAFCASS.
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My son was humiliated by a female judge in Bolton family courts. She the judge read out a letter supposedly from my granddaughter who at the was just 9 years old saying she wanted to be called Daniel after the bloke her mother was with at the time. While reading the note out the judge smirked constantly it was disgusting. The judge didn’t want to know about the mother of my granddaughter having been found while in charge of her child with 9 different drugs in her body but the judge said that is basically old news. She didn’t give my son any access whatsoever or even leave the door open she was truly despicable.
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yes. all judges do this if a person does not have a lawyer they are fair game for the judge to abuse there position .see it all the time. .one getd nowere ..only back to court againe with the samr issue. thats why the system is so broken
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I’ve was bullied for over 4 years in the family court systems….. With and without a lawyer!!! Family Court Is Disgusting…… A System Failure if I’ve ever experienced one!!!
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I never got bullied in family court but I had a judge after a proceeding joke about how much i had to pay my lawyer in order to fight false allegations that my ex had accused me of for domestic violence. Talk about pouring salt in a wound.
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I went to court in September 2018 in an attempt to be in my son’s life more. The courts had punished me for 1 year already for not hiring a lawyer. As I attempted to get shared custody the judge decided to punish me, and put me on supervised visitation. I objected. The unhonorable judge [edited] working out of Henderson County Texas told me he could do whatever he wanted. That it was my fault for inviting the courts into my life. He then said he granted my motion and would give me standard visitation. The catch, it started 15 months after I went to court in December 2019. So I get one visit per month of 48 hours supervised until April 2019, then 48 hours unsupervised until December 2019. Them I get the whopping 4 days per month until I’m able to afford a lawyer. I know for a fact they will not change from the standard visitation even then. This judge also participated in ex parte communication with the opposing attorney. He also order me to pay the mother’s attorney fees when I couldn’t even pay for a lawyer myself. He threatened to put me in jail if I didn’t pay them. They’re drugging my 7 year old son, and have been for 2 years now on abilify and a stimulant. There is no recourse for these judge’s criminal misconduct!
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I receive that treatment constantly from the family court system in Tampa Florida…over case concerning my grandson..the state attorney for judge essrigs court is a professional at doing that to me also…i hope eventually this will stop..but i dont see light at the end of the tunnel right now…the state is trying to keep my grandson in foster care..upon second removal from my daughter..i raised him until 10 months ago..and thers no reason what so ever he should have to stay at an unsafe shelter ..i pray for everyone having to go through this…its a nightmare
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Doesn’t matter how rude or how biased the judge behaves in the family court.All will be denied and the written judgement will be a version where anything questionable will have been edited out.Attempts to compare the judgement as written with the official recording of the process will be met with disbelief ,delays and requests for absurdly large sums of money!
What the law says and how it acts in practice are two very different things in our UK family courts !
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Our civil and family courts are corrupt through and through.
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In my case the Judge told my lawyer to shut up at leasdt 5 times he never told the other side to not even once
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I was bullied by DJ [edited] in the Central Family Court. I was a Litigant In Person for an Emergency hearing. I was shouted at for over 1.5hrs. My McKenzie friend told me to stop talking as nothing I was saying was being listened to. She asked me where my bundles were, were my representation was, told me to get legal advice – after I explained I couldn’t afford it about being cleaned out during a Domestically Abusive relationship. My ex had a barrister and sat there laughing – he couldn’t have paid for a better judge even if he tried.
What did I learn? In children cases going with s direct access barrister or be prepared for secondary abuse from someone over stepping their authority.
Plus a Penal Notice that would see me imprisoned – the one and only time I withheld contact based on CAIT, police and social services advice. Got me no where but more ammunition for my ex. Such a sad day; no justice.
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District Judge [edited] who works at Croydon Family court. She is a biased judge and I have no trust and confidence in her. Unfortunately I had judge [edited] for the child matters in 2018. A judgement for the fact finding hearing was seriously flawed but because I was a litigant in person I’m going against a barrister DJ [edited] took sides of the barrister for all the findings despite me providing admissible evidence to her. One of the pieces of evidence was an email from a counsellor who confirmed that my ex-wife and her legal team were tried to bully her to write a statement and make a diagnosis about me.
The counsellor who has upset wrote to me in an email stating exactly what had happened and that she has never made any prognosis diagnosis of any kind about me. I presented this evidence as part of one of my allegations in the fact finding hearing about the behaviour of my ex-wife and her legal team in trying to con the courts. Judge [edited] dismissed my evidence has made up because in her professional opinion nobody would address a letter to whom it may concern. There is many more examples i experienced with district judge [edited] and I welcome you to contact me at any time so I can explain and provide you with evidence.
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My name is [edited], I have been going through the family court system and I feel I have information that will show this exact type of behaviour from judges. My court transcripts show the very belittling comments and humiliation I endured while fighting for equality in family court. Feel free to reach out to me at [edited] thank you
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Thank you for your comment and I’m sorry that you’ve had a bad experience. This campaign is a national one for the UK, and I have had to edit your details because we have reporting regulations on cases in England, but if anyone wants to reach out to you I will let you know.
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The Judge laughing at my comments with regard to my meeting with a Barrister.
The Judge saying to me during questioning under duress and shattered after a long day of questioning that this must finnish today after knowing of my exhaustion and Crohn’s disease. Also while under questioning about alleged domestic violence i said “I swear on my daughter’s life i didn’t do these things in question” He said “I find it incredibly distasteful that you should say such a things..”
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My ex is a muslum nice card to play, I’m a Christain the judge did not take any noitice of my faith but ordered me to respect ex religion to the point that the judge ordered me not to feed my daughter pork, my daughter is not a muslum. This was abuse of me and my daughter rights, Article 9 and Article 18 of the Human Rights Act. My barrister said nothing even after I rised the isue, her remark was “its not abuse of my rights”, Barrister was a waste of time and money. As for the rest of my case, all much the same nothing but abuse and smart mouth comments from the Judge. As for the hearing for financial order, WOW what a joke, been robbed and left with nothing not even enough to live on, ex got it all so as to pay her legal aid bill off, sure case of rob peter to pay paul. The family system is corrupt billion pound bussness it not based on what is right or fair but for what they can get out of you once they see the E Form and see whats in the pot to rob.
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Yes. Female Judge tore me to shreds with her words. My abuser, well…… She praised him and wished him all the best.
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Please contact; I have story to share.
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Hi, please email us at sobk13 at gmail dot com. Thank you.
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Bullied, humiliated, made fun of and treated worse than a dog by Judge [edited]. Gave up because of my ex threatening me and because she was totally aggressive and unreasonable. Then gave me totally ridiculous orders that aren’t working after 4 years in the court system. Gave my kids to a DV perpetrator accused me of lying list goes on. She should be removed.
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Yes I have been bullied for almost 17 years now. My little brother however took his own life in 2011.
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I’m so sorry.
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For holiday contact with our child, I asked for half of the school holidays. Judge ridiculed me and said that I thought of the child as a possession that should be divided equally between parties. Ironic that a lot of other fathers get to have half the school holidays with their children.
It’s time to judge the judges and make them accountable
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Always,always speak on behalf of the child not yourself ! Point out to the judge that your child has the right to spend time and have proper contact with both parents .Say that if the court deprives the child of contact or gives unequal contact then that child will suffer severe emotional harm and therefore the court should not be so cruel .
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I’m in almost the same position right now. The appeals court just over turned my judges finds on all counts in my fight for my son .
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Well I have been going to the family court for 4 years and the judge always says he doesn’t like me. How am I supposed to get a fair hearing if he doesn’t like me to begin with? Also my ex has used the court to belittle and abuse me me and the judge not only approved of it, he encouraged it. When I was represented my case, he wouldn’t listen to me. Also he said he didn’t want to hear my street talk in the court room and called me a selfish person
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Sack your useless solicitor who does not defend you .Represent yourself so you can defend yourself and simply ask the judge to recuse himself (retire from the case) so that you can be heard by a judge who does not dislike you ! If you are represented the judge can refuse to hear you but if you represent yourself he is obliged to let you talk and to listen
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Yes, an utter disgrage, I could not believe what I saw in family Court. As a father trying to combat a bitter mother commiting parent alienation I assumed the court was there to protect my rights as a father. I was so wrong. Their only objective is financial gain. Extortion center would be a more appropriate name. Added to this these judges or certainly the one I had just humiliated me, fighting wanting to be in your kids lives alone speaks in volumes. I wasn’t a drug addict, wasn’t an alcoholic, wasn’t mentally unstable, wasn’t in and out prison, I’d never had social services intervene in our family life, oh and I was a full time serving fireman where lives could be put in my hands any given time. But I was told I couldn’t see my kids because my bitter ex just said something bad about me, it was that simple. I was made feel like some criminal all because I wanted to be in my kids lives.
Utterly disgusting.
I no longer recognise family courts in Scotland.
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I have entered my 9th year.of family court proceedings- final orders were made by a judge in 8th year they did not work as judge formed bias to the abusive parent and condemned the protective parent. 1 parent is vexatious and using the court to continue his abuse however judge condemns both parents and says 9 years of litigation is ridiculous for children. All evidence before him proves children are broken and a relationship does not exist with the perpatrator however he refuses to call it and say enough, instead chooses to wash his hands off it and refer it to a new judge in the system for 4 months time.
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Yes I bullied by a family court judge.
She let a man with a criminal record of DV who stole my child against the then court orders, keep my child.
He had even admitted on his affidavit of a recent assault against me yet court told me he had changed and made out I was lying.
When I was upset by my ex withholding my child from me I was asked if I was insane.
I was not believed even though there was overwhelming proof and I was left traumatised.
My barrister sited some other abuse case and the Judge screamed “I don’t care”
My affidavit was not even read and my solicitor had months to write it but only did so the night before court. So judge only saw it when I gave it to her and she did not look at it properly.
The abuser has custody as court let him steal my son against court orders.
He will not follow the court access agreement that I get every second weekend and tells me to just kill myself.
I have not seen my child for at least 7 years now and the abuser has changed phone numbers so I have 0 contact.
Family court reporter knew this man was sleeping in the same bed every night with a ten year old child and just said he was a loving man.
I have no faith in our courts at all and think they must be on the take.
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I was bullied by judges, family court staff and lawyers and police, child protection and numerous others. I have not seen my children in years. My children were kidnapped 20years ago and courts had no legal rights even accept case. Perpetrators, my ex, his partner, police and cps workers, should have been charged and a full inquiry done. Instead myself and my children have been and now my grandchildren are being brutalized by the system. I am still fighting for justice and a full Royal Commission into the family court and associated institutions.
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Excellent article! I am a Target Mother who dealt with two abusive and demeaning Judges and sided with bias with the father and his highly favored attorney.
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My name is [edited] and I was completely destroyed mentally emotionally psychologically by the judicial system in Logan County Oklahoma .”It is the cesspool of corrupt legal system from Child Welfare worker’s, Attorneys, District Attorneys, Judges” those words came from my attorney [edited] who was former DEA [edited] and represented me in my child welfare case in Logan. I was beyond bullied for three years that I fought for my children and ultimately lost and destroyed me and my life and my children’s life because my attorney [edited] and related to my judge ended up turning on me the last day of my trial insult me out and cost me my children my three wonderful beautiful precious children or taken from me permanently and given to strangers not family I rephrase that my children were sold to strangers legally…[edited]……..
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The family courts systems bully fathers every day to the point of suicide. I was financially bullied, emotionally tormented, and my children were stolen from me by a bias system that needs reform. Open courtrooms are an absolute necessity. Evidence is ignored and lies are admissible. The amount of injustice that occurs is disgusting. It’s a circus not a court. The children are suffering. Fatherless facts plague our school shooters, prisons, financial assistance recipients, teen mothers, teen suicides, obesity, etc. The list continues yet we still bully fathers like they’re second class parents. We’re the fundamental structure for the formation of social behaviour
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Judge [edited] told me I had to agree to my Russian ex ability to leave the USA at will without any notification. If I objected I would be in contempt of court. 360th District court is corrupt
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Had the exact same experience with judge[edited] in wolverhampton 2010. Youngest was taken into care 6 months prior to the local authority removing my 2 eldest. Then was told i had no chance of contesting the order for the 2 eldest because of i did i would risk them not being placed together as siblings and i would not see them until they were 21 years old so felt i had to allow my 2 elder children to have the permanent foster care placements in case they never got to see there 2 baby siblings. Once i agreed to this they still stopped my eldest 2 from seeing there youngest siblings and only gave me 3 times a year contact with the eldest children.
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The Golden Rules
Extract from my site http://www.forced-adoption.com
IGNORE UK SOCIAL WORKERS!! They act like police but in fact they have NO AUTHORITY (they rely on bluff, bullying and fear) .In the UK only police and judges have the authority to give you orders but social workers have no power at all except to frighten you!!Don’t talk to them (Just say VERY QUIETLY AND POLITELY ” I am really very sorry but I have been advised NOT to chat with you !).
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I had to represent myself in Birmingham Family Court I am a suffer rheumatoid arthritis and I also suffer with dyslexia which makes it very difficult for me to write statements read statements and understand the whole Court process the judge and the Clerk of the court was very rude and very demoralizing to myself I find this disgraceful in a court of law
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Was Terrorized behind the doors of Secret Family Law Courts by Judges, Solicitors, Social Workers and Garda(Police)
It was Torture
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Finally something is being done, and it has been a long time coming. My children are adults now and I was bullied constantly in family court, talked down to, and treated like a idiot by the judges. I hope more kind of this action happens, so parents are treated respectfully by family court judges.
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Yes every time I step into court they order a psychological evaluation on me but not my ex that tried to kill me with All three pregnancies or threatened me with a gun
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I was bullied cause I was self represented I believe. Every time I spoke he cut me off & kept saying the $1,300 piece of computer forensic evidence & loads of evidence was unsubstantiated & kept letting the OPs lawyer dismiss anything she wanted. The Judge even let the OP lawyer get away with Perjury. Child Safety documents say that I was no a risk & didn’t abuse the children in Nov 16 In July 2017 they claim that when my daughter returned from my care in October 17 that I had emotionally abused her. Not to mention the family court swept Contempt of Court for my ex under the carpet & gave custody to a man that drinks excessively, snorts Cocaine & smokes Bongs in front of the children. Not to mention how I exposed the corrupt report writer when the children told me that he was drinking beer with my ex, before coming to my house. How many times did I have reason to dismiss this bias drunk that his wife had also left. The strange thing is I’m the bad parent CAUSE I TRIED TO PROTECT MY CHILDREN FROM THEIR FATHERS ABUSE
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Hi can you contact me please as I have not had a fair hearing from the start and feel that u was being bullied and intimidated through out
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Thank you for your comment. Please email the team at Sobk13 at gmail dot com and we will get back to you promptly.
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After experiencing bullying but also a blatant disregard for hard factual evidence of clear abuse and neglect while in care after having my child taken at birth and being told im a first time parent with no parenting ability somehow stuck in court. For two years i have been fighting tooth and nail. Asking questions and throwing all the hard evidence i can to prove that the documents the judge has got sitting right infront of them has been manipulated and is false and still i get belittled and treated like a bad person. Never been to court for anything and never been in trouble with police for anything. Never had a fine and never even had a parking ticket.
Even my lawyer has given up but im still fighting hard including a screaming match the judge instigated by accusing me of looking like a drug f#@ked tattooed scum bag that should rot in hell. Just because i have a couple of tattoos does not make me out to be a bad person nor a bad parent. Now i am being bullied into forced adoption by signing over my two kids to the department of child safety and by god i will never ever consent to that.
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I feel im being bullied by my judge who hasnt even ok’d visitation for my 9 year old going on 2 years. I have a 4 yr old and 2 yr old has been w me 247 since birth along w my oldest until she was kidnapped by her father at 7yrs old and he got away w it. Im still attending court date after date attempting to have time w my daughter. Negatively effects whole family.
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I reported to both the C.A.S. and the court that my children’s mother had been using cocaine, and crack cocaine while the children were with her. I was sternly told to sit down and shut up or I would be found in contempt, on more than one occasion. The judge told me she didn’t believe me, and told me I would be charged if I ever mentioned to anyone that my children’s mother was using crack. She told me I was not to speak of it anymore. Later, the Office of the Childrens Lawyer did an investigation, and found that the C.A.S. had done numerous drug screens on my ex, and she had failed every one. I brought a copy of the report to court, as well as a copy of the transcripts where the judge told me to sit down and be quiet, and that if the mother was found doing crack, the C.A.S. would have the children removed. She went on the say in a very demeaning manor that it was their job, their duty, their mandate, and their legal obligation to do so. When I showed her the report, and read her back her transcripts, she looked at me and asked, “are you finished?”. There was never an apology, or an acknowledgement of her making a mistake. She then ordered that the children stay with the mother. I have lots of stories just like this, and worse. The family court system gives judges way to much freedom to play with people’s lives with no accountability. Shortly after all of this, the mother of my children set her house on fire smoking crack. She fled and my children narrowly escaped. She told them to take responsibility for the fire, or mommy would go to jail, and they would have nowhere to live.
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Judge [edited] verbally abused me in court. He ridiculed me infront of my husband who abused my children and I for 10 years. He refused to accept my diagnosis of Ptsd, anxiety and depression caused by the abuse and stated he did not care. He couldn’t even get my sons age correct. I felt humiliated and burst into tears on leaving court. That was in September and my nightmares are no longer just about my husband but the judge too. I have to face him next month and my anxiety Is through the roof. He was extremely rude to myself and female solicitor and clearly has issues with women. My solicitor later disclosed he was going through his own break up / custody issues. I don’t care because he is a bully and shouldn’t be allowed to get away with it. A decade of abuse was enough for me and I shouldn’t have to be treated like the perpetrator when I am the victim.
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“comments designed to embarrass or humiliate.”
Yes im familiar with that one.
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Yes I have in Sweden ! Going on for two years now
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My friend’s son has been taken away for 5 years since he was 16 ( he was lied by NHS to be away from home for one night for assessment ) . Now he is still under section 3 even he is in the community care. God forbid , his mother has been taken to the COURT and be warned by the COURT ( Gage ?) that she was not allowed to talk to MP s or other journalist about her case ) , What a Nazism this country become ..
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The Children Act 2004 para 251. Section 62(1) amends section 97 of the Children Act 1989 to make clear that the publication of material from family proceedings which is intended, or likely, to identify any child as being involved in such proceedings (or the address or school of such a child) is only prohibited in relation to publication of information to the public or any section of the public. This section will make the effect of section 97 less prohibitive by allowing disclosure of such information in certain circumstances. In effect, this means that passing on information identifying, or likely to identify, a child (his school or his address) as being involved in court proceedings to an individual or a number of individuals would not generally be a criminal offence .
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Yes. I have. I lost all my rights this week
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Most Recently
I was Order By the Magistrate to formally restrain from speaking out as DHS had already taken my newborn son without prior legal consent of the court.
Also having me forcibly removed from the hospital.
Dis-allowing me to see my son.
He was premature ordered C-Section via DHS without my consent or legal.
He was on life support in a humidy crib.!
I was threatened by the magistrate that if I continued to speak (The Truth)
I would be physically gagged and restrained.!
With possible charges of contempt.!
DHS had No evidence nor Any Legal obligation to do this.
Yet the magistrate allowed this fallacy and fantasy of theirs against me to continue.
Further to this harrassment and threats inside and outside court
I have already attempted suicide.
As my partner is in Bendigo psych
I am getting physically assaulted at my house by my partners stepfamily
Her stepfamily have threatened to kill my son and her
DHS ignored this as with the Magistrate.!
Instead my child was placed in the care of her step family that have made the threats.
The Magistrate allowed this to continue.!
😡😡😢😢😵😵
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Without mention that DHS and legal services and Mental health workers are making unfounded accusations against me
Statements include
You are a
Rapist
Peadophile
Wife Beater
Alcholic
Junkie
Etc. Etc.
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I would love to have our story published. It’s not just me, I know of others. There are many who have been treated like this by Justice [edit].
She has openly mocked me. She has sat on my case, openly admitted to conflict of interest, then refused to call a mistrial. She then sat on my partners case, then back on mine. She even questioned my partner about his case during my trial!
At one point she put her chin in her hand and and rolled her eyes, turning her face away slightly, saying whatever, go on.
She belittled me, refused to listen to my evidence, called me a liar even with proof from several witnesses that it wasn’t me, it was my ex. There’s so much more.
My children are left suffering, crying, one has threatened to run away from the exes, they’ve asked for help from children’s advocates, CFS, even counselors. Everyone says there’s nothing they can do. I don’t have the money to fight much more.
This judge has shown complete bias. Just in our two cases alone, ten children have been adversely affected.
Anything our family and ourselves can do to bring to light what’s happening in family law, we are willing to do.
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Section 62: Publication of material relating to legal proceedings.
251.
Section 62(1) amends section 97 of the Children Act 1989 to make clear that the publication of material from family proceedings which is intended, or likely, to identify any child as being involved in such proceedings (or the address or school of such a child) is only prohibited in relation to publication of information to the public or any section of the public. This section will make the effect of section 97 less prohibitive by allowing disclosure of such information in certain circumstances. In effect, this means that passing on information identifying, or likely to identify, a child (his school or his address) as being involved in court proceedings to an individual or a number of individuals would not generally be a criminal offence.
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You can certainly speak to your MP about anything you like and no judge can stop you !
Social workers will even say that you cannot discuss your case with others due to secrecy rules ! That is a LIE as you can discuss your case with any individuals you like but you cannot go on TV or go to the press revealing your name until after court proceedings have concluded. Parents are sent to jail (about 200 per year according to a former home secretary) for breaching the “privacy” of their child if they “go public” (article 8 ECHR gives us all the right to a PRIVATE family life but is used to gag parents !) .
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The Children Act 2004 para 251. Section 62(1) amends section 97 of the Children Act 1989 to make clear that the publication of material from family proceedings which is intended, or likely, to identify any child as being involved in such proceedings (or the address or school of such a child) is only prohibited in relation to publication of information to the public or any section of the public. This section will make the effect of section 97 less prohibitive by allowing disclosure of such information in certain circumstances. In effect, this means that passing on information identifying, or likely to identify, a child (his school or his address) as being involved in court proceedings to an individual or a number of individuals would not generally be a criminal offence .
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I am a parent who was bullied in the district court by the judge
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I wouldn’t even know where to begin 23 years ago turned into a nightmare I was a young mother scared and alone I haven’t seen my girls it almost 23 years because the judges would not listen I have now found out my one daughter has birth of a homeless on the street because the judge put her in a much better situation it has been a nightmare I found out that Justice is not about right or wrong it’s about who has the most money wins and if you don’t have money don’t bother showing up because you get treated like dirt I miss my girls so much I know I’m never really see the bike again what a nightmare thank you
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It was December 10 2015 my intensive neglect service worker lied and said I never applied for for my children’s Medicade so they could get their ADHD medicine. I didn’t have proof of me trying except a screen shot I took of it. She asked the judge for an emergency removal so the judge granted it to her we didn’t know anything about the court till the day of court to a couple days before court and we didn’t have enough time to get our proof of the 20 applications we put in for it. Then she lied and said me and my family burned our child over a hundred times when I had the proof that it was something else the ER Dr told me to tell her to get a copy of it herself that’s after CPS already had a copy of it she wanted me to get her a copy the Dr said no. So that is what I told my intensive neglect worker what the Dr had said so she went and took my children into a public bathroom and took half naked pictures of my children. She told me she showed her brother that she started was a Dr but wasn’t apart of the case the pictures and she said he told her they were cigarette Burns which I had proof but not at the time with me that they were not what she had claimed for I had proof from the pediatrics ER abuse Dr that they weren’t. So we go to court on Friday December 10 the where the judge read off the things she was saying and I forgot to turn off my phone and that’s when my DHS worker called I said here’s my proof and they told me to put it on speaker and put it up to the microphone so I did. I told my DHS worker I was in court for the Medicade issue and they were taking my kids back my DHS worker asked if he could talk to them and explain it wasn’t my fault it was DHS fault that I applied repeatedly and it wouldn’t go through because they still had Foster care insurance and it stated in their computer that they were still in Foster care. The judge asked how did they want to proceed and my attorney and my children’s attorney said they just caught her lying so they didn’t want to proceed but the sub prosecutor and my intensive neglect service worker said to proceed so the judge did. Even with the DHS worker’s testimony. So the judge ended up removing my children even though they caught her in a lie. So on Monday I we went to go see the kids and couldn’t so we decide to try and get our minds of things but couldn’t so we decided to go home on our way home my fiance has a seizure behind the wheel do to all the stress sand losing the children so it’s 4:34 rush hour traffic on a Monday I had to get the vehicle stopped for we where going 85 I took my set belt off to try and reach the breaks but I couldn’t and we were going head on in the oncoming traffic Lane so I got the vehicle back in our Lane which everyone knows who lives in Lansing Michigan that MLK during rush hour is bad enough so we are driving down MLK back in our Lane when I saw another vehicle in our Lane so in a split thought I turned the wheel and slammed the van into a tree to get it to stop. I went to the hospital in critical care had my ankle shattered my knee shattered my pelvis broke and three broken ribs my ankle and Knee were so shattered the Dr said it was considered that the car accident amputated my knee and then at my ankle I died the times on the operating table so long story short. We had court again a 11 days after the first one so everyone could get proof I already had all mine even though I was in the hospital but their was one problem the Dr wouldn’t let me go to court for my health was to bad. So my intensive neglect service worker lied to the judge again and said she talked to me and that I told her I tried to comment suicide which he then called my trauma team up at Sparrow hospital during court and said if I’m not in court the next court date then I would be arrested and so would all my trauma team he told them what my intensive neglect worker had said and they called her a lier for I never talked to her. The Dr said being up the cameras and the audio equipment for she’s not stable enough to go that’s when he threatens us all again and that’s when my trauma team said you can come up here for murderer and for people that rap people but you can’t do it for her. So a couple days later they said the judge got ahold of them again stating that I have to be in court or else and that’s when they decided to let me out early even though they had the police reports and everything else and that my intensive neglect worker said I was driving which was a lie they had proof of all this and the judge was still harassing and judging me like I was a criminal then the judge said something to the Dr and my family that I will never forget I was gonna give her her kids back cause I saw that the worker had lied but since she wants to comment suicide she has to wait. So even though he had proof on top of proof that she v lied on me he still believed her over me and my Dr and the police.
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I believe everything you have said im sorry you have been through all of this the judges dont want to listern to doctors in family court cases and victims of domestic violence and abuse and good people are treated worst then rapists and murderers all for trying to be a good loving parent why are family courts kept secret this is corrupt socail workers are liers and sick individuals THE POWER THESE PEOPLE HAVE FOR BEING BULLYS
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But one more thing something should also be done for the family that couldn’t get the hello right away because they didn’t know where to look or they were to afraid to act or their attorneys told them not to
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I have been abused by the family courts since 2004.My parental rights were never terminated yet I am unable to exercise them in any way due to the courts blatant abuse of ADA human and civil rights violations going on for 15 years the judicial conduct committee is a farce and dismisses complaints. There is no justice and nowhere to turn. I have sent 3 letters to the DOJ in Washington DC.
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I was told several times when I went through the family court that I was alienating my children against their father as he had been abusing them but I had no proof and they would not listen to me. Now their dad has been found guilty on 2 counts of indecent assault on a minor, if I was listened to The continued abuse could of been
stopped and their father would of gone to prison sooner.
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Grieving Mother was so abused, admonished, and ridiculed for being disabled during family court hearings – that PTSD was worsened, and mother now suffers severe traumatic disorders. And this was AFTER mother requested ADA accommodations under the Americans with Disabilities Act!! Twenty+ years LATER – the grieving mother does not even know if her child is alive or dead, or the whereabouts of her child. This court case went all the way up to the corrupt U.S. Supreme Court – to no avail.
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Hi
I feel as tho I’ve been bullied buy the judges as of my children to, there’s no safeguards or anything else in place nor as I’m in a new relationship and my partner has a child from her privious relationship her jealous ex called social services after hearing untrue gossip about me all checks come back all clear, seems absolutely redicoulos I can be around other children but not my own. I was stopped by a biased caffcass advisor after allegations was made against me again which the police withdrew
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“biased caffcass”
just as disliked as the SS in the UK.the damage they are doing to Children is beyond belief yet they get away with it just like the SS.
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In the Judgment after a Fact Finding Hearing, the Judge remarked that due to my line of work it is inconceivable that I would tolerate domestic abuse. T I was chastised by the Judge in his Judgment stating that I was intelligent, articulate and no shrinking violet. He also stated that I was emotional unnecessarily. This was his take on my reaction when I was asked by the Judge what I was frightened about in my Daughter having contact with her Dad. My reply was that I was frightened he would kill her and I broke down in tears.
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The judge i have right now in derry northern ireland is forcing me to sit with my abusers family for them to have contact with my children. One who isnt even there grandchild. She is refusing a contact centre. My daughter dosnt want to go to contact to see these people and now im being told il be held jn contemp as i wont force my children to go to contact. She refused to look at social service and police records
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A catalogue of horror and heartbreak. Impossible to believe that British Justice could have sunk so deep into the mire of despondency and despair with its reputation synonymous with corruption.
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The judge I had was in mold Crown Court I felt like the judge and his panel didn’t even care when I asked them to look into things and when the judge ruled adoption the judge just said he’s going for adoption and then walked out without giving me the reason as to why the judge I had didn’t even want to listen to me and I felt like the judge made his mind up before court
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“the judge made his mind up before court”
i believe this is a common theme in the Family courts.
almost impossible to tackle as they are holding all the Aces.
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I was subjected the abuse via the family courts. When my children were abused in foster care after pointing out on several occasions that my children were removed from a situation the l.a had described as inappropriate and then placed somewhere where they were neglected and abused. When this was pointed out to the judge he simply disregarded it and said “this was not a brownie point scoring game” the children were left in the foster placement several more weeks before their foster carers were advised to resign before formal action could be take against them. This advice came from the local authority itself.
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I had a judge tell me I had given up my right to higher education when I gave birth. He ridiculed me for going back to college. I had lost my son to foster care, because of severe depression. I was trying to improve myself and get my son back. My being a student instead of working was held against me.
I was also denied unsupervised visitation with my son, because I am Native American. I was told they received an anonymous tip, that I was going to take him and run to the reservation with him. I have no ties to the reservation and and was raised by my white mother away from the reservation.
I was made fun of because I asked why they took my son without a court order, because it was against the Indian Child Welfare Act. I was ridiculed for pretending I know the law. i was also denied an attorney, also against ICWA.
My caseworker also testified I was bi polar, which I am not. I was told, they believed my caseworker, with his education and reputation over me. i was told I wasn’t mentally capable of understanding medical diagnoses because I had mental illness.
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does being bullied throughout the whole procedure count its not just judges its social workers,chair person,school safeguarding officers,bulling,sarcasm all the same
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You’re welcome to add your experience in any way you feel most comfortable.
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Social workers are at the core of why bullying and sarcasm takes place. they will poison other professionals against the parents to make it easier to bring them down and also to make it harder to complain. once you are flagged up as bad parents they will all have the same negative view and many will not want to deal with you or answer your questions. another Human rights violation for shure.
it all comes down to that little black textbook book of dirty tricks on how to damage and blacklist parents..
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At Manchester family court I was appalled at the way the judge spoke/shouted at me. Quite ironic considering he took away my son following domestic abuse but then feels it’s appropriate to shout at women. Social services had taken me to court to revoke my son’s passport as he was no longer in my care. I had moved house and didn’t know where it was and I said I wasn’t happy his sex offender father could now have access to it and possibly be allowed to take him out of the country now they had given him PR (but not custody). He shouted at me telling me he didn’t believe I didn’t have the passport. I said I am simply trying to safeguard my son from sex offenders. He proceeded to shout at me and asked if I worked and suggested I pay for the cost of the hearing. In the previous court hearing he had told me he hoped I found emotional equilibrium again ironic. I hope he can find emotional equilibrium and maybe understand the effect of shouting at an abuse victim with PTSD when they are simply trying to protect their child. Judges are fully aware you have no support when you enter the family court as nobody is allowed in due to confidentiality, nothing more than bullies.
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I was made to comply with impossible court orders. When I confessed that I couldn’t comply anymore during a hearing the judge got sarcastic and belittled me. I wish I could of been sarcastic back and asked him if he could of done the order he imposed on me but of course I couldn’t treat him the same as he was treating me.
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U.S.A. family court system has successfully created a epidemic of annilihating families through corrupt and fraudulent practices. Separating children from their biological parents has created casualities of war; these are the walking wounded.
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Has anyone approached President Trump about this ?
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My judge was so biased against me it was untrue..he tried blackmailing me..saying that if I do dv course I could get out of contact centre..there was no dv in the case and no evidance of dv.. 2 previous judges disagreed with contact centre..he allowed my partner to commit purjury on numerous occasions…I was refused to have evidance in court to prove my ex was committing purjury and perverting the course of justice..I am at present going to take out a private court case against this judge for breaching my human rights..
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I was bullied by Judge [edited] of Las Vegas, NV. My child as also bullied by her. signed [edited]
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Bullying, threats, defamation and double standards are regular by a particular s.8 circuit judge sitting at the Bradford court. Judge turns a blind eye to unlawful actions of a law firm [edited] whom disseminate children information in public – a breach of s.97 Children Act 1989. The principal solicitor of this firm openly delivers comments of paedophilia before children and parents *recorded. Delivered before the judge – no action taken.
This law firm for many years put forward an individual whom purported to be a qualified solicitor, profiting from the public. When highlighted to the s.8 circuit judge that the individual is a fraud – the s.8 judge simply did nothing and allows the individual to continue to attend court. Despite transcripts before him at father’s expense of course.
This judge awards unnecessary costs to the law firm knowing father is bankrupt. Undermines and criticised the father. Refers to the father as a Pakistani when indeed the judge knows the father is not a Pakistani. The family court’s agenda is to deplete the parents funds by dragging proceedings and inflame arguments. Allow fellow Officers of the Court (Solicitors/Barristers) to abuse the public funds and profit as much as possible, and to alienate fathers.
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We were on the receiving end of abuse from Judge [edited] of Norwich court. He shouted at me in court while I was trying to represent my daughter after having only overnight notice of a hearing in family proceedings. Also Mrs Justice [edited] and Lady Justice [edited] who can’t read!!
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Family court judges can’t or won’t do anything about enforcing contact and if you push them to do so they will turn on you. They’re just not interested, and never will be. If they decide they don’t like you for, well, anything really, you’ll be bullied throughout.
I had five figure costs awarded against me last time I asked them to enforce their own orders. I had to give up and now haven’t seen my daughter for six months.
It feels worse than someone dying, as you can never have closure. Usually ruins the children’s lives into the next generation.
My heart goes out to those who have had children removed, sometimes on the word of barely qualified, thick or prejudiced social workers. It is extraordinary that children can be stolen from their parents every day and the media constantly ignore it.
Anyone who’s reading this and facing the family court, I urge you to give up now. All the stories are true, it is horrible, you have failed your child and you will regret it for ever. But it will be far, far worse if you engage with the system. The same will happen in the end and it will smash you to pieces.
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In the UK social workers receive bonuses for seizing children!
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If we are talking about Canada so I have a tail for you it intailsjust about every form of abuse by a judge that you’ve mentioned and to top it off my ex’s lawyer flat out lied to the judge who refused to allow me to even say one word and then she took custody of my kids away from me for 6 months.
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This has been very much been my experience of the family court for some years now. Firstly when I initially applied for custody. The second time when the court order had been breeched and my ex was being abusive to my child and was denying it. And now some years on whereby I am now a lot older and wiser to the system and choosing now to self represent. I have been bullied and emotionally blackmailed by judges to commit to a impractical contact agreement. “If you care about your child you need to prove it to them by doing this.” I have not done anything that warrants contact to stop which I have proven. I get the attitude that because I am male I am a second class citizen. Because I am the absent parent my opinion doesn’t matter and that I have to jump through hoops to satisfy everyone. I have always been involved with my child and fought every step of the way to be involved as much as I can be. Unfortunately the system stops you from doing all that you want. This leaves my child open to the brainwashing from the mother that I am not good enough to be part of my daughter’s life because I am not there 24/7 nor am I have the same views and a approach to parenting as the mother. I don’t need to prove myself to anyone and love for a child is unconditional. Family courts should be monitored more closely. A judges behaviour should be something that can be easily looked into. Every court should be recorded both video and sound. I have seen in the corridors of the courts other fathers being bullied by solicitors to doing things that are unpractical with the use of emotional blackmail to get their point across. It is an inevitability that a child will favour the parent they spend the majority time with. That is not to say the absent parent doesn’t care but that is what is being forced onto the absent parent. Basically you are punished because you are, in male and you are not the parent that the court chose at the start. You are in the courts mind nothing. You are not allowed to be involved with your child but only be allowed to be involved with your child in the specific way they want you to be. They allow parent alienation to go unpunished and they too are guilty of alienating a child against you.
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I have been abused by judges and gals and grandparents and foster parents and lawyers and etc here where I live in Virginia and proved the grandparents abusive to my girls and the judge said they all had violated all of our rights and breaking the law and everything else and that she didn’t know why my children was not back with us because the other judge had wrote we did nothing wrong and still have my children and want give them back to me I’m so sick of all that has went on want my children back now.
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[edited] county court bullied me to take my son away from me
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Recently had final hearing. Told straight away that the past will not be looked into. Cafcass report highlighted parent alienation but not addressed. None of my other orders were looked at. Felt as though I was an inconvenience to their day. This is my only experience of the judicial system and it stinks. I was one of the lucky ones and have always had access so it stayed the same. I self represented and would say if you can afford it get a solicitor. The court system should be overturned. Equal rights for both parents (unless safety issues are there).
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I have been falsely accused for my ex for various crimes.
All of them were verified by the police and discharged as result of false allegations.
The judge who took my case made all those false allegations as valid, even though I had solid evidence that everything was a fake from my ex. the evidence goes from videos to voice notes even in one of the moments where my ex accused me of having committed one of the crimes I was in the police station under investigation and other on Italy
Ridiculous? It seems to me a lack of respect to government institution that these mentally retarded supposedly represent.
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Yes I have even referred to calling me names with legal council and but as a self litigant judge treated me better,
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We have had my two boys of 5&6 now over a year now but no we not been bullied but more so the social services process I am a exsoldier of well over 19&1/2 year’s service with no criminal record and I have still been treated like one dose qualify me help
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I was bullied by the judge in family court for a child arrangement order. My ex is a paedophile. He is not my 5 year old daughter’s biological father and yet the judge still allowed him supervised contact. The judge did not let me speak, he told me to shut up in a few occasions and yet my ex could speak freely The judge tried to belittle me during a fact finding hearing about a sexualised game my daughter played with my ex in the park. He let my ex cross examine me and ask me questions that were completely irrelevant to the fact finding hearing. It was me that had to say I’m not answering as this has nothing to do with the case. The judge implied that I was disorganised when I submitted last minute evidence of my ex on facebook contacting young girls and yet my ex held up two hearings by handing in letters to the judge to read before the hearing. I have enough evidence to take my ex back to court but it will be referred back to the same judge so I feel too scared to as I know I will just be bullied again. The judge just used his power to belittle and disrespect me when I am a mother trying to protect my little girl from sexual abuse.
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That’s similar to what happened in my case. Judge wouldn’t let me speak. Kept telling me what needs to happen. Dismissed evidence of Contempt of Court & Fraud by my ex. Every lie my ex told was credible & every truth I told was unsubstantiated no matter what evidence I produced. The amount of abuse the children disclosed was all unsubstantiated as well. I feel I was just another number in the system & the Judge went against me cause I was self represented as the ex financially abused me as well as physical & emotional abuse from the alcoholic. Failed court ordered drug tests & still got rewarded custody of the children. All the abuse got swept under the carpet & I also lost $120,000 to go with all the legal, emotional & physical abuse of the children & myself. FAMILY COURT IS THE BIGGEST SCAM IN HISTORY
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i agree,
once a Judge decides they dont like you there little chance of getting a fare hearing if you have to go back to court in front of that same judge. i do also believe the Upper class position also plays a big part in how these judges treat the general public and most of the time its pretty damn bad. the SS must love the Family courts as its the only place they know they can win even no evidence and fabricated case files.
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I was pressured into accepting the current situation of them residing with their father. Evidence was heard briefly but I was prevented from giving evidence and prevented from challenging some of the evidence. Massive cover up of failures by two local authorities. Evidence not factual. Procedures not followed. My life has been destroyed as a result of false allegations alienation and on going psychological abuse.
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Yes I had a similar case to yours. It’s total corruption to allow children to be with abusers
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This story is common all over the country. thousands of family lives among the working and none working classes have been destroyed with lies and deception.the govt simply dont care about the public being persecuted by Social workers and Family court judges.
most of them running this country are from higher classes and only know a privileged life. they live in a completely different world high above street level.
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It’s probably not seen as bullying by judge but them ensuring their points are heard and felt. But what many misunderstand is that they are not trained and entirely unsuited to the job, and the court system that instructs them is similarly not up to the job. Wrong training, profession, environment and principles, imported from other areas of law, that judges are trying to make work where they are inapplicable. If judges really knew family law, they could do better than they do, but few specialise at all, and those that do, from what I’ve seen, still do not use the law to best advantage. Then they blame the litigants for it not working. The French call it the ‘arrogance of office.’
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At Swindon family court I was bullied by a female judge, admonished for not having a solicitor though I couldn’t afford one and ended up having a panic attack outisde the court room. At Plymouth court, [edited] (now at Holborn Central Court where I also had to attend hearings 2 years later) was a recorder judge who reserved my case. He was biased in favour of the father and referred to me as ‘one of these mothers who lie about abuse which we commonly see in courts’, said ‘the rape was just something she didn’t fancy’ (this is written in an order), ignored evidence and witnesses, did not allow me to speak or help me as an LiP or stop barristers bullying me on the stand.
I felt generally terrified throughout proceedings. He Ignored my children’s letters to him, my son saying he was suicidal at being forced to live with his abusive father and this judge stated in an order ‘its not that bad’-it was that bad, my son was abused and is now suffering depression and anxiety, panic attacks and although he came back to me at age 16 he is unable to be in education or work due to the effects of court decisions. His sister wanted to leave but was too terrified of her father and is dissociated and stockholmed.
I experienced bullying from cafcass and my ex’s lawyers. When I entered a courtroom alone for 3 days of hearings the usher made a sarcastic comment about some of my witnesses being unable to attend (implying they didn’t exist). It was clear that all the ‘professionals’ had decided to give my children to my abusive ex-who is extremely controlling and manipulative as well as violent. The children were 11 and 13 and should have had a voice. They are very polite, quiet children and cafcass lied about what they’d said, was manipulative and used leading questions. The judge went along with her and seemed desperate to show I was lying, even when a new cafcass guardian pointed out the children had never been heard and saw that the father is controlling and aggressive. My ex lost his temper and it was ignored. The judge stated he wanted to use my case as a ‘benchmark’..he is welcome to talk to my son and apologise for ruining his life.
We lost everything-home, business, belongings, friends, children’s pets.. .I suffer from ptsd due to his actions. The orders were written to allow my ex to have complete control over me and the children which he has made full use of. I know these experiences are not uncommon and now help to run a support group with thousands of similar heartbreaking stories.
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Sounds like youve been on the front line in Hell with nothing to fight back with.
hope your Son comes out of his trauma caused by the Court.
i really do believe that most Family court judges do not have the correct persona or skills to do that job. there is no accountability re shoddy work ethics and substandard ability. thats why so many families are being permanently harmed by these courts.
the reality is family affairs should not be dealt with by the courts unless offences have been committed.
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Like I ALWAYS say “Abolish the family courts and replace them with the criminal courts to deal with child cruelty”
That is how it used to be and it was a lot better !!
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Thankyou Dr Manhatten, its going to be a long journey with my son, and eventually his sister when she’s ready to seek help.
I agree completely that most family court judges are not the right people to be making these decisions. CAFCASS also need proper training in domestic abuse and abusive dynamics, and psychs need to be proper experts..the one who assessed us was not appropriatley trained and there are reports online stating he write reports that always recommend change of residence if the mother talks of abuse, and he runs workshops on ‘how to prove parental alienation’ and how to appear confident in cout.
There is a general mindset of victm blaming throughout child protection agencies which needs to change. Mothers will be blamed for not leaving under public law, or for makingfalse ‘allegations’ under private law. Theres no where to turn and do the right thing, which is to protect your child.
I’ve had to advise countless mothers to send their children into abusive contact situations to avoid them losing residence, and to be extremely cautious about reporting abuse their children tell them they are experiencing at contact/residence. This includes sexual and physical abuse. The main culprit is the theory of ‘parental alienation. Its a trap used against anyone who talks about abuse by the father (occasionally mothers but this is rare)..
It would help if there were real experts.involved and not all these professionals blundering around making ridiculous decisions…or those who are probably narsissistis/sociopaths themselves
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Oh I also went back to court last year for my daughter. It was a new judge who was condescending and rude, clearly hadn’t read my statement and didn’t seem to want to help the situation in any way.
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On one occasion lawyer for child sought a direction from the court ordering that I have a full psych assessment. The Judge turned to me and said with a smirk and a sarcastic voice “Well Mr Xxxxx what do you have to say about that?”
I responded “Your Honour, I fully support Ms Xxxxxx undertaking a full psych assessment t on herself”. I then proceeded to raise concern regarding Lawyer for child has a conflict of interest (my ex had worked closely with a partner of L4C’s law firm) the Judge cut me off by jumping out of his seat punching the bench with both fists, and screamed at me repeatedly three times to “SHUT UP!”.
On another occasion the same Judge told me “Everyone dislikes you Mr Xxxxxx, and all of the Court Registry hate you. When they see you walking to court on security camera they hide”.
This same Judge tried putting me in prison for Contempt and tried forcing me to withdraw my memorandum. I refused, so the judge opened what I can only call a mock court after hours, had me brought up from the Court holding cells and he let me go. Within three weeks my memorandum was returned stamped with a message stating my memorandum was not accepted by the Court.
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NO surprises there then !
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Everything about Court Proceedings is farcical. Families are unaware that the outcome has already been decided before they even step into the courtroom. Your emotions, time & energy & money are wasted. The Solicitor I had initially didn’t even bother to read the notes before going to court. Told me he would “wing it!” In retrospect he didn’t need to read anything, he had gone through the motions several times before & knew what the outcome would be. The opposition, LA barrister, children’s solicitor, social workers(s) & Guardian, all in a room working out a well used strategy while you are sat outside waiting to be called in. I even heard them rehearsing their “evidence” one time whilst getting ready for the witness box.
Since the Judge has to keep awake & at least look interested she/he has sport with the families knowing they are ignorant of court procedures. It’s not about truth & justice. You could cut through the pretence of it all if you had a knife. Sadly it’s a conveyor belt process dressed up to appear something it’s not. Your child is a name on a piece of paper to be “disposed of.”
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i absolutely agree dana.
decisions are already in place long before the court proceedings end while parents are left believing they still have a chance once they give their evidence but its simply not the case.
its nothing short of large scale corruption and lawbreaking,and all done in secret.
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I most certainly believe I was bullied by the courts, one magistrate in particular, a cafcass officer and a circuit judge. The problem is PROVING IT. How do you prove, facial expressions and feelings of humiliation, laughs, cut offs, order by which you can question. What I could say or question about and what I couldn’t. Not being able to give evidence. There’s no evidence. Just what I can say.. no one will investigate and how?!!
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You have to stand up against all bullies including judges.But always do so in a polite but firm way so you cannot be accused of contempt;
You have to politely request permission to ask a question as you are representing yourself and there is something you do not understand !
You will usually be given permission (but If you are refused then ask for permission to appeal on the grounds of bias and intimidation by the judge of a litigant in person)
The question you ask is this:- I am representing myself as is my right so can I respectfully request that your honour stops intimidating me by continually interrupting me,shouting at me,abusing me,and making unpleasant faces at me when I am simply trying to present my case ????????????
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Hi I read your comment but some judges sanction you on doing this and will write rubbish things in court order.
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Hi
I am going through family court since 4.5 years. My judge was never interested in considering domestic violence and even father was not following the contact order. There had been numerous issues. But she was threatening me that if I don’t agree to contact I will not be seeing my son again. There after, she mentioned in the court order that I have willfully agree to the contact. She had been always ignored the needs of a victim and as a result today my son was harmed physically by father’s family.
She always been extremely strict with me but very kind and with father who didn’t did anything except drama in court.
The biggest question is how long domestic violence survivors have to suffer more?
Why can’t they leave us with our children alone.
Child’s best interest is with both the parents are now the ancient thing. Children need better life free from violence, live in peace, learn good habits and grow and learn to survive in life in the future.
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Yes, the judge keeps delaying hearings, won’t let me speak has strinken my wittness, refused to acknowledge documents. Hanfird ca. courts have a track record of bullying and only siding with military members, no matter what proof you give them. They encourages parental alienation.
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Yes exactly what happened in my case. No matter what evidence I produced it got dismissed. Fraud, contempt of court & Perjury. He got away scot free & got custody of the children with his absolute lies & bullshit. Anyone can go to Family Law, lie there arse off & it’s excepted. If you’re self represented your taken as an absolute joke. Has nothing to do with with the best interests of the child. In fact this court HANDS CHILDREN TO ABUSERS.
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I was forced by the judge to make my 3 year old go see the man who tried to murder her mommy, right in front of her…he got away with everything and nearly everyone always believes him.. years later, nothing has changed. I live in fear every day of my life…not only of him, but the court.
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I was continually bullied and blackmailed for 5 years by a top Judge sitting in Manchester Civil Justice centre & by a Cafcass officer and their solicitors, so much so I was blackmailed into handing residency to their father, if I’d of gone ahead with the contested hearing to try & keep residency I was told in no uncertain terms that the Judge would go with the Cafcass officer’s recommendation of 24 hours contact one weekend and 12 hours contact a fortnight later but if I hand over residency & go with the father’s recommendation I’ll see my kids 24 hours one weekend & 48 hours the next.. that was on [edited] , on [edited] their father and his then wife stopped all contact my babies where 3 & 4 years old , I fought for four and a half years to get contact back with my kids ( I hadn’t done anything wrong) I didn’t see or speak to them [for almost 4 years] it was a nightmare, I fell pregnant again in that time and they tried to make me miscarry as they knew that if i had another baby all of the lies they’d told that’s the father, his wife AND Cafcass officer would come back on them… They even ordered a pre-birth assessment to be done me and my partner had social services all over us from I was 4months pregnant until our son was just over 4months old eventually social services closed the case with no concerns about me or my partner, and sure enough all the lies they’d told came back on them… Father & his wife split up and the Cafcass officer resigned!!!! And the judge that helped to ruin my life suddenly decided she no longer wanted the case and it got transferred to another court … and from that day on my luck changed , I got someone who wasn’t biased and got reunited with my children it was at first in a contact centre fully supervised ( which was horrendous) but it was just one of the many hoops I had to jump through… Eventually I got unsupervised contact again… in [edited] my daughter turned her back on her biological father and refused to go back after a weekend.. he ended up taking me back to court, this time though he didn’t have the support he had previously and I got residency of my daughter again in January [edited] unfortunately because his daughter won’t speak to him ( it’s whatever has happened in the 4 years I didn’t see them it’s completely her choice- she’s now 13years old) the father has again stopped all contact with my son it’s now nearly 2 years since we saw him and there’s nothing I can do about it as if I take it back to court to enforce the court order that’s already in place father will agree to everything in court then when we get outside of court father will just ignore it again the police won’t get involved in it as it’s classed as a ” civil matter ” I don’t know right now how or when I’ll get to see my son again, father has stopped ALL maternal family from having any contact including his daughter… it’s heartbreaking I know what those 4 years did to me but now he’s putting his own daughter through it too.. * Father still has residency of our son and he lives about 10 miles away.
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I have been bulled judged and my rights taken away from me also not a fair hearing also sarcasm and discrimination
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Well obviously the “Family courts” are corrupt ,the social workers are horrible, and the judges are bullies !
When the proceedings are secret and parents are jailed for speaking out what else can you expect?
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I need more info. I personally have been a victim to the system as well as my babies
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Yes. SS, solicitors , caffcas and family court.
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Socile service said l had muchousing. In 2014 so all the hospital and doctors believe it. It April 2019. we just found out yesterday that she has a hole in her mouth. If it was not for judge, social services, Children gaurden, Children solicitor, this would have been sorted. They all failed my children.
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Child guardians are supposed to be just that, the guardian of the child yet they fail to protect children during court proceedings usually due to interference by social workers and team managers who want their agenda put first. the child is very often put last when it comes to best interests.
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And lets not forget.
Child guardians, iROs, team managers etc are very often X Child protection social workers themselves.
Need i say more!
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MANCHESTER CITY COUNCIL PIMP OUT A WOMAN IN THEIR CARE !!
Autistic woman, 23, whose condition meant she sought risky sex was allowed to be ‘pimped out’ to strangers by carers so she could ‘learn from her mistakes’
•Woman looked after by Manchester City Council-employed firm Engage Support
•She repeatedly engaged in risky sexual behaviour while in the company’s care
•Led to a two-month scheme in which men were allowed to visit her home for sex
By Rory Tingle For Mailonline
NEVER forget the fabulous “Court of Protection” ! Second report for the sceptics !
An autistic woman whose condition meant she sought risky sex was allowed to be ‘pimped out’ to strangers by carers so she could ‘learn from her mistakes’, according to a report.
The 23-year-old, who has learning difficulties, went through a two-month trial approved by a court during which random men would visit her Manchester care home for sex during daylight hours.
Is this what they mean by the “Court of Protection” ???????
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I need help I am going through a custody issue where the judge is a nabs judge and I am being criminalized for nothing for over three years I have not talked to my daughter for a year I’m being alienated and my ex is in contempt of three orders and this judge is purposely ignoring them and placing the blame on me , my ex is a fellon has a criminal record and he got temp full custody of my child and abuses her my child tells her therapist this and she has even called child services and they’ve done nothing , my daughter just turned 13 and doesn’t wanna be with her father he is heartless and doesn’t even wanna be with her he just wants revenge and doesn’t wanna pay child support!! This judge is awAre of all these things he is doing all the emotional physical and mental abuse and he keeps letting her stay with him and refuses to give me back my custody when they took awY my temp custody over enmeshment which only happened whn her father Abandoned us three years ago after 13urs of abuse for another woman and left us with nothing so My daughter and I looked at each other for support , yes that’s why I got her taken away from me !!!!! Freaking ridiculous, and it’s been a year and I can’t get her back I need help bad my lawyers not doing anything he’s worthless , PLEASE HELP ME and MY DAUGHTER
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Thank you for your comment and I’m so sorry to hear about your experience, and your daughter’s. You’re very welcome to email me (Natasha – Researching Reform’s manager) and I’ll do my best to try to help. Sobk13 at gmail dot com
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That’s exactly what happened in my case. It’s been 6 years since the narcissistic ex used the system to abuse us all further. My daughter hates her father that much that she wishes he’d DIE. Child Safety have been informed that my daughter is suicidal & have NOT ACTED. The whole system allows children to be abused. Family court is abusive
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Yes mine stopped my divorce said it were a farce then social services used it in paperwork saying i wouldnt divorce him.plus turns out judge also adopted his sons through same social services.and every time took it back to court it had to be in front of same judge so nothing could be changed
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I’ve had a section 20 forced upon my family and told my son’s relationship to me was one of fear by the judge who never met me nor my son before. The report carried out went back as unfounded and nothing more than a power tool by the courts… so said by Tulsa in my defence. To this day im shamed by his actions.
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Bullying was in the form of subtle intimidation tactics. No reason or logic was given for banning me from access to my son, when I took the case to court. However, fact finding was refused on the grounds that ‘it might bring out the truth of allegations against me’ that apparently I may not like. Often phrases like ‘this is deeply concerning’ were used while looking at me, whereas my ex was treated with ‘are you comfortable?’ as he is apparently disabled. I was refused access to the psychology expert that I wanted on the grounds that it was expensive, though I was producing cost documents and bearing the costs for everything, but the atmosphere was that I had better do as I was told if I did not want to lose more than I had already lost.
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Yes a good description of the Family courts.
Not fit for purpose.
Heaven knows how many innocent Victims have gone through those courts of Doom over the years.
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Yes a good description of the Family courts.
Not fit for purpose.
Heaven knows how many innocent Victims have gone through those courts of Doom over the years.
Nobody looks into these judges to find out what they get up to in their personal lives. i suspect many of them arnt good enough to shine our shoes.
Dangerous people for shure.
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My son had special needs. The judge picked up the thick file, let it flop back onto the desk and said that it was ridiculous, he didn’t have time to read it and he wanted it sorted quickly as he was playing golf that afternoon. Yes he actually said that. He shouted me down in the middle of my evidence multiple times and threatened to remove my children if I didn’t agree with him. Bully doesn’t begin to cover it.
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At this moment I am being lied on and reports are being fabricated and mislead I am being mocked of my recordings and with threat of losing my kids by social workers I am scared of
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The judge have bein bias against me, taken my son from me and handed over to perpetrator who abused my son physically and sexually(prove bein provided by doctors after assessing my son at the practice). My sons father never been interest in our son but always paid more interest to get back with he. Judge has called me a liar, that my English is not good enough for my sons education welfare, but she understood al my statements been providing and also I represented myself ligitant in person through out the case. She rejected Cafcass report, ignored school reports and also from doctors. My little boy have special educational needs and muscle weakness he was under medical investigation approx. Muscle weakness and etc. I been told by judge that I am sick in head parent who makes my son believe he is unwell, to get of my back side and find a job ( I left my full time job to care full time for my son).
I haven’t seen my boy for over 3 years, haven’t spoken to him just under 3years as my ex partners wife won’t let me. That woman she threatened me in passed have tryed to attack me in front of my child al this been logged with police I am scared she don’t take it out on my little boy, he has disclosed previous that she is violent and hit him on head so no marks on his body.
My son being taken from me by police officers without any other party at present no social services nor cafcass.
I need some sort of help and support to get my baby back from them I don’t qualify for legal aid nor either I have strength emotionally or physically to go through courts as I have been left scared. Could someone please help me out or point out to me what direction to go or start from.
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I was concern about my 2 nephews & 1 niece so I personally walked into CYFD office. Was told the kids was fine and my brother & his wife wasn’t breaking the law living in a filthy home. A few months later CYFD took the kids over a dirty house. I tried to get the kiddos but had no luck. I took the classes at CYFD to be a foster parent. They refused to take my application. (which I put a complaint in) I finally got visits with the kids. Then all visits stopped with no reason given so I again put in another complaint. I am a proud person but I didn’t think twice to get down on my knees and begged and cried the supervisor to please allow me to be in the children’s lives. Even if it was phone calls. Was told she didn’t want to deal with me in no shape or fashion. But in the mean time my 5 yr old nephew got raped in his foster home. CYFD allowed me to think for a year that it was my 9yr old nephew who got raped. I was never allowed in the court room but I was there every court date.CYFD never terminated my brother’s parental rights. But he can’t see his kids. They gave us the wrong court date for the last court. My brother had 30 days to file an appeal the day the case closed. But we wasn’t told the case was closed. When they told us it had already been two and half months. So to late for an appeal.
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I was threatened and forced to sign documents without legal advice.
I was lied about, also discriminated against my mental health, humiliated, stopped contact with my children because I was emotional in meetings in my defense it’s natural to cry because I was missing children, I was going to commit suicide but was lucky enough to get a chance to be a mum again
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If the “SS” stopped all contact with your children because you cried that shows what wicked people they are and they deserve prison for crimes against humanity.
No mother should be deprived of contact with her children unless she has been convicted in a criminal court of a serious criminal offence against children. Even baby P’s mother was allowed to see her surviving children in jail !
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This post for my grandaughter had several surgeries on her legs where they cut legs into and was absent from school she did do some and the work was turned in but since she missed 46 days of which 40 were dr excused she was thrown into the system as an unruly child . With the first surgery she ended up with staph infection had 15 drs seeing her in hospital cause they said it was so rare . Even had disease control there. She got that taken care of was off school with dr excuses had to go back to court Judge said he didnt want to hear about any more dr excuses. Well she had to have her other leg which they also cut in half and was in the hospital and then was home for a few months and her leg kept swelling she was going to school at another school kept getting so sick and then we found out her body was rejecting the metal they had put in her leg. Ok another surgery to take it out and now it has to heal on its own dr said go easy till she got full strength of it . In the meantime court again and she was forced to go back to school where she has to climb steps that she had to crawl up cause it hurt her. If not they would file contempt charges. In the middle of all this she had to start seeing a psychologist because she was scared of being sent off and 8 months ago lost her Dad in a bad wreck and not doing well with it at all. Asked the attorney if they would put in a motion for her to do home school or get GED and the attorney said I cant go in there and tell him that he and the prosecutor are really agitated with you 2 . Went on to say they were talking about maybe filing contempt charges. The court day time before last Judge said he could keep her till shes 21 and bring them to court every 2 weeks and take everything my daughter has well thank goodness she owns nothing. Is there anything we can do we really cant afford to hire an attorney she was appointed and I hear shes related to judge
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I have recently had to represent myself in court. The judge was sarcastic when I asked if the guardian was going to make sure my son got. Y letters, he said ‘ er well I rather think that’s their job’ in a really sneering voice and forced me to accept sending emails to my son through his dad when I had given valid alternative suggestions – a man that is a coercive and at times violent man. I tried to explain that it was upsetting because of prior abuse and he told me I was talking nonsense. He was clearly desperate to get back to the builders at his home and made me feel like I was wasting his time. This judge had previously completely dismissed all the medical evidence from the NHS that my teenage son has Aspergers syndrome and therefore is vulnerable to manipulation which he getting from his dad. He, together with the legal guardian and cafcass are fawning over my son’s dad like he’s parent of the year when he has never even been around for his son and has been hell bent on destroying me for many years. I felt humiliated and distraught and if it wasn’t for my local refuge supporting me I don’t know how I would have coped. I brought up the matter of counselling for my son again as I think he desperately needs it and again it was just brushed off. The man needs some training in domestic abuse and autism because he seems to be very ignorant on both topics. I’m terrified of going into court again it’s giving me panic attacks.
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I’m so sorry you and your son are going through this experience. There is a lovely support network in our site’s readers and they can also point you in the direction of support groups on social media platforms like Facebook.
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Thanks Natasha, much appreciate your kind reply x
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I have been bullied by a lot of judges in family court and today by judge [edited]! I’m so upset and I’ve cried most of the day the court has failed me and is making my child see his father against his wishes and made an order against my wishes and against professional wishes and also didn’t care my nan has cancer whom I’m caring for, they won’t let me look after her and she has a feeding tube and no one else to care for her they said if I did then they would take my child off me and give him to his father permanently. I’m disgusted by the way I have been treated and they dismissed all my evidence that my ex is an abusive bully and let him get away with a lot of bad behaviour against me
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I’m so sorry.
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I have been going through a divorce for 5 years. I applied for a divorce after husband was verbally abusive and rough towards me and the children. Police could take no action due to lack of evidence. I was taken through family court by husband as children refused to see him and he claimed I was bad mouthing him and influencing them against him. After 3 years of proving my innocence he now only has indirect contact per a court order. He said I would suffer for it financially. For 5 years he stopped paying towards the joint mortgage and a joint loan. Stopped everything. Stopped paying parents for a loan claiming it was a gift, stole the family car I pay for as it is in his name, stole a trailer I am paying for and the list goes on. I attended a final hearing yesterday and I can’t stop crying. It was intended to be the day I get to tell the judge all hes done and the powerful affects its had on me and my children. The judge was a bully. He was rude, dismissive and not interested. He said he had 3 hours, it was meant to be a days proceeding. If we couldn’t agree then hed reschedule it for next year and itll be a few days hearing where he would scrutinise all our paperwork. He asked why we hadn’t resolved it before entering court and my barrister asked for 30 minutes to discuss the matter with ex. He said no you can have 20 minutes. I came away with the house if I can pay £5000 in arrears and husband pays £4000 of a joint loan. He keeps all his pension, has a huge salary, doesn’t have to discuss car, trailer or loan to my parents. He made my life hello for 5 years. Struggling doesn’t cover it. Police said it was financial abuse but not enough evidence. The judge didn’t want to know. I felt humiliated, bullied and I agreed to the order as I didn’t feel I had any other choice. It has left me feeling suicidal. The worst thing is not knowing where to turn. I feel so let down. All the barrister could say is the judge is well known for his manner.
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I’m so sorry to hear you and your children have been through all of this. My name’s Natasha, I’m the founder of Researching Reform and as part of the project’s remit we offer support (free of charge). If you feel I can help, you’re welcome to email me at Sobk13 at gmail dot com.
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I have and am being harrased and bullied by my ex wifes barrister. She was abusive and belittled and humiliated me with an aggressive nasty tone.
This is all totally unnecessary as the situation is difficult enough without a legal professional being horrid.
My legal representitive has also complained and reminded the barrister of her conduct on many occasions.
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One judge clearly didbt believe me fron start. Has removed my evidence from bundle. Due to proven abuse (with another judge) I was allowed to appear by telephone. This had a delay which meant I sometimes interrupted the judge by mistake and he shouted at me. I felt left out of proceedings, not protected. I was acting as LiP so my ex could have just had his screen off. Have had repeated buying and sarcastic comments, told the other side they would probably win so carry on, with no hearing of evidence.
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I have been completely humiliated and let down by the judge. Her comments were very personal. It was relentless criticism. She enjoyed humiliating me in the witness box. Very different treatment for my abuser in the box. All that was missing was a cup of tea and some biscuits. Very cozy.
Very unreasonable demands imposed on me in her judgment that made sure that my perpetrator ex was ok and his needs were met. AS ALWAYS!
DRUM ROLL, PLEASE…
Judge [edited]. Carlisle.
Turns out that I am not the only mum she has abused through the system.
[edited]
There are councillors, expert witnesses, local DV services, child centre workers and barristers that think she is on a power trip and have came across judgements they do not agree with. I have told dv services the hell I have been through and i have had comments such as “by any chance did you have judge [edited]?” They just knew by the degrading comments that it must have been her. They rolled their eyes and said her name just keeps coming up again and again and again.
I come out of hearings thinking are we even in the UK or Iran? Forrester has no clue about children. Through the grape vine, I found out lately she has no children and has never been married. She has no clue about healthy relationship behaviour and she really doesn’t care about the voice of the children.
If anything goes against the narrative, she will DISMISS the evidence. She won’t have it.
[edited] will make excuses for the perpetrator. She will even blame you if you were not in the mood for sex for example. After the perpetrator has humilated and abused me why the hell would i want to be even more vulnerable straight after and be intimate with him? She is of the opinion that the perpetrators needs trump everybody else, basically.
Don’t make a mountain out of a mole hill. Also if he was controlling me I could have left….
Well Judge [edited], I did and look where the hell it got me…meeting you and your Crapcass cronies that go OVER AND BEYOND to help the perpetrators.
This judge and Crapcass have blood on their hands if anything happens.
They WERE told and they did NOT listen. I am NOT going to let them wriggle their way out of it e.g. that they didn’t know, and lessons learnt crap that they spout when things go wrong. No way. It won’t change matters but I am certainly not going to let them think they had nothing to do with it. After all, they helped the abuser.
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Personal experience with a judge not following his own orders. This same judge made both parties negotiate final orders, and these orders go against the current DV Orders.
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Despite my position statement outlining coercive controlling behaviours, financial abuse and my feeling uncomfortable having the other party at my address due to false allegations being made against me, I was made to give my address and have drop offs and pick ups from my address and his. As I cried the judge said ” is mother all of a sudden claiming domestic abuse?”
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Yes. Family court is horrendous. DJ [edited] is such a bully. Not willing to listen to evidence not willing to see evidence. Tearing my friend to pieces and so on the fathers side.
Totally and blatantly ignoring any proof and on listening to what father’s solicitor is saying and not even giving my friends solicitor a chance and shutting them down before they get to even say well actually the evidence of ……
DJ [edited] is ignoring any evidence and total disregard for what is actually right in their face.
I work for social services and have become friends with a friend of the mother and am horrified of how twisted social services can be. I have worked for them forever 10 years so am aware how they can be but when the evidence is in front of them and they have been convinced by a prolific abuser the amount of damage and harm they are inflicting is horrendous let alone the amount of abuse they are putting in the children.
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I have been bullied by judges all male, told if I didn’t comply with giving my abusive ex contact I would lose my son and go to prison, I was bullied extensively by a cafcass officer in front of my mum which the cafcass officer lied about in court, I was driven nearly to suicide by her. I think it’s because I am autistic but she knew exactly how to cause me to melt down right before a court hearing, in the end I refused to see her yet she was my child’s guardian, she also conspired twice with my ex to have my son removed from my care, fortunately that didn’t happen.
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Dear parents, thank you very much for sharing your experiences, I have written to the Bar Council asking for them to issue guidance, and sent them this post so they can see the comments outlining all your experiences. Names have had to be removed for legal reasons.
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Thats why Cafcass have a 95% negative rating on TRUSTPILOT.
they are horrible people who cause serious mental health problems to parents and children. but is it any wonder when most Cafcass staff are X Child protection social workers. they are wicked cold hearted people who should not be allowed anywhere near vulnerable children in care.
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The Judge [edited] at Blackpool bullied me. She was sarcastic throughout. It was appalling. She allowed everyone to say appalling things about me without any factual evidence.
I was told I was a paranoid schizophrenic and lots both my children because of it.
I don’t in fact have a mental health issue but both my children are autistic
My daughter was assaulted in care
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The judges totally dismissed my evidence, the cultural differences, undermined my mothers role in the child’s life. They were acting dismissive expecting me as a foreigner to know all proceedings, local system, court terminology, law, make sure solicitor is acting correctly or just accept that all legal aid solicitors are defending all cases exceptionally well. It’s expected that I am a perfect human being who never make mistakes, however all professionals including social services, guardian, forensic psychologist and even the court are allowed to make mistakes, misunderstand, misinterpret talking on their own language being in own country; and mislead others by take facts out of the context and fabricating me as a bad person covering up each other etc.
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I had to take out a non molestation order against my ex snd he is contesting it. I’m the last court case i got to see his statement to court which included him stating he has contacted my ex husband (who I suffered 19yrs of domestic abuse and he was charged in court many years ago so I still live in fear of him) my recent ex partner that I took a non mol out on had never met my ex husband never had his number and doesn’t know where he lives. So he has gone out of his way to contact my ex husband regarding the non molestation order I took out on him. Firstly I thought it was breaking family court rules to discuss a case with someone not involved and secondly him contacting my ex husband has caused my ex husband to be abusive towards me and he is now threatening to stop his child maintenance money to me which will cause me financial difficulties. I asked to speak in court snd asked the question why my current ex has contacted my ex husband who is my previous abuser and started to explain the problems it’s caused when the judge stopped me and raised her voice and said my ex partner (who the non molestation order is against) can contact who ever he likes and I was basically told to shut up!!! The judge is also refusing to see my evidence that I had compiled against everything my ex has said in his statement!! This is the 2nd time I have been shot down in flames regarding domestic abuse cases
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My ex has taken me to court for 9 years in a row i left him because he was controlling and mentally and physically abusive to me he has used family court ever since to carry on the abuse and control i have been treated worst then a murderer the way im treated and bullied down to his lies and constant allegations his had legal aid and ive had to pay for a barrister his took me to court 8 times this year so far and is loving the way im treated the family courts have made him a god and i feel the judges power has got to her head its amazing that its all kept secret and no one is held accountable in the year 2021 this needs to stop open up family courts this should not be aloud to continue
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Judge [edited] of the Bristol Family Court, was so rude to me in court that I made a complaint to the Court Manager to have him removed from my case, he refused to release the case and I had to write an even more damning letter to the court before he was removed as the Judge. I can give much more detail if required. I was a litigant in person. Back in 2004/5
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I HAVE BEEN NEARLY DEMISED BY ENGLISH LAW. SPENT/WASTED: SIX WEEKS FIVE YEARS FOUR DECADES FAILING TO SECURE ME A GOOD LAWYER/LAW-FIRM TO SAVE ME INCARCERATED EVEN NOW. HELP.
PLEASE.
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Hi, I’ve sent you an email, I hope it’s helpful.
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Hello, I need help my boyfriend is trying to get a restraining order on his ex wife and mother of his daughter. The baby is 4 years old and she’s scared of her mother she the last time the baby was in her care she gave the baby a black eye by throwing an ipad at her face purposely just because the baby wanted to go to her dad’s, she verbally abuses her by cussing her out kicking her out of the apartment saying go live with your father, she has made the baby eat her own throw up and she stomps on her feet, she was limping for a week, my boyfriend has called the police police when one day out of nowhere she barged into his house grabbing the baby and and running out the apartment he called the police and they 2hours to get here the mother let go of the baby because my boyfriend was recording her, the cops got there and didn’t believe him they didn’t want to hear him or see the video of her entering his apartment by Forced her way in and attempt to kidnapped the baby,the cops didn’t care and they told him that he was coaching the baby, they talked to the mother first because she waited for the cop’s outside to feed them her lies, I don’t understand the unfair treatment just because he’s a man.hes just trying to keep his baby away from harms way CPS dismissed the case after the case worker came to his apartment and spoke with the baby herself and heard everything the mother’s done to her if she was a good mother the baby wouldn’t act the way she gets when she sees her mother or knows the mother has to pick her up, we went to court to put a protective order against the mother showed all the proof and he was denied the order, this is too much and the law is turning him away left and right he’s a great father I know this for a fact, the baby also told us her mom gives her medicine to sleep,the baby hates grape now due to the Benadryl she gives the baby.i don’t know what will happen if she kills the baby then what the father is trying to get help the proper way and it’s being denied enough with this please we need help the court told him he has to give the baby up to the mother on her days she’s supposed to have her per court custody. This is a sexist disgusting law people. We cannot afford an attorney and he needs sole custody but withe law being so disgustingly being unfair because he’s a Man I’m done with Nevada laws they are shit. well we went to
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I’m incredibly sorry to hear this, it’s deeply upsetting. The website is located in the UK, so we don’t generally work inside the US system. If one of readers can help, I will let you know.
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I have been bullied, threatened and insulted in Peterborough. I am willing to share my story anonymously
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Natasha Phillips, hi,
where, when and how can I speak to you please ?
be well.
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Hi Joanna, you’re really welcome to email me.
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My ex wide lied in court, the judge bullied me into accepting a valuation on our company , I was told if I didn’t agree he would make up a figure and use that.
He was sarcastic and bullying all the way through
My ex has a new partner and an 18mnth old by him , he has a job and
Could get a small mortgage, but in being faced to pay to house this child and my own children, they will be getting married so he will also live in the house
I’ll be lucky to walk away with 60k and my company that I can raise a mortgage for less than I need to buy a family home I’m 57 and she is 42
Basically the judge has ruined me
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I’m really sorry to hear about this. Family court judges are infamously bad at anything finance related.
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