Complaints by families that their mental health is being badly affected by the way Britain’s family courts handle child protection and divorce proceedings are growing.
A rising number of service users on social media sites are reporting heightened levels of anxiety, depression and symptoms similar to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Some parents are also being diagnosed by counsellors and psychiatrists with mental health conditions including PTSD, which have come about during the Family Court’s handling of their cases.
Failures by councils, lawyers and police to properly investigate abuse and organise support early on are also causing concern. A new law suit filed against a UK council makes several allegations about the local authority’s handling of a public family law case, including failings around providing the applicant parent with proper psychiatric support.
The parent, who was a victim of domestic violence, was also not made aware of their right to obtain occupation and non-molestation orders, leaving them vulnerable to further harm.
The claim says the parent’s mental health was further aggravated by poor social work assessments filled with dangerous inaccuracies, and a psychiatrist’s report which was based on too brief a session to be able to come to any meaningful conclusions about the parent’s suitability to take care of their child.
The system’s less than robust framework and highly variable professional standards across the country are particularly dangerous in light of the serious nature of child protection cases.
One vulnerable mother who saw a psychologist after her mental health deteriorated during a child protection investigation was noted to have been re-traumatised by the process.
The psychologist stated in their report that the damage could have stemmed from forced therapy sessions and prolonged trauma associated with lengthy social work investigations which took place over a period of several years.
Not all families feel they can seek external help when child protection proceedings affect their mental health. Some parents are choosing not to reach out for support when they feel overwhelmed, claiming that the culture inside the system blocks families from being pro-active and protecting their health.
Several domestic abuse survivors have told this site that when they started to feel mild symptoms of depression as a result of controlling behaviour by a partner, they became fearful that councils would use the request for support as an excuse to remove their children from them and place their child with the abusive parent.
The perceived threat of removal in these cases is leaving a significant number of vulnerable parents without the mental health support they need and crucially, allowing their symptoms to get worse over time.
One mother told this site, “I don’t dare to seek help, as SS [social services] may use my mild depression and anxiety caused by coercive control as a reason to take my child and give him to my abuser.”
Being wrongly accused of abuse and experiencing the wrongful removal of a child can also be hugely damaging to parents’ mental health. While investigations are important and the need to establish whether a child is being harmed or is in danger is not in dispute, the current processes and policies around these assessments are primitive and often amount to emotional abuse.
Parents are being routinely accused of domestic abuse without any tangible evidence, often only through hearsay and a social worker’s personal preference for a parent. One mother we spoke to who is currently undergoing a child protection investigation told us that social workers were initially unable to find a reason to remove her child but seemed determined to make a care order.
After months of acute bullying, which included forcing the mother to take her son to a pre-adoption medical examination, the social workers in her case changed tack and claimed that her oldest son who has Asperger’s was a danger to her younger child after her eldest experienced an episode.
The council then applied for an adoption order. The protracted ordeal left the vulnerable mother, who had previously managed her pre-existing mental health conditions successfully, feeling so mentally unstable that she had to start taking her anxiety medications regularly again. She told Researching Reform, “I do feel the courts and LA [Local Authority] make the parents in this process subhuman. At times, they are even abusive themselves.”
There are also serious concerns around social workers not being able to distinguish between pre-existing mental health conditions and court-process induced mental health illnesses.
That confusion is so embedded inside the system that parents now suspect social workers of using the onset of poor mental health during proceedings as a quick and cost-effective way of removing children from parents rather than offering support and assistance.
Parents are often left to deal with heightened mental illness on their own after child protection proceedings. Some parents never fully recover from the unforgiving and impersonal family court process, while some try to find ways to cope with the legacy of a legal system that has yet to modernise.
As one parent explained, “The trauma doesn’t go away, there are always triggers. But I’ll pull myself back, I always do.”
I was absolutely destroyed by SS when I fought them and lost custody of my grandson, I had been mercilessly worn down by 16 years in court battling them for my youngest daughter which I won but I had used up my reserves and when I lost my grandson and social services reneged on court ordered contact I just broke down completely and have never recovered.
And that was how they won too, firstly by roping in a dodgy common purpose psychologist who charged the courts £10,000 for a highly questionable, constantly self contradicting report that amounted to drivel, he was supposed to be independent but instead of as court instructions seek a fair assessment with me directly spent a whole afternoon with social workers prior to my assessment. Watch out for him as he has an evil reputation, his name is Paul Jeffries and is one of the nations “adoption” champions who believe us parents and grandparents can never do a good enough job compared to some rich adopter.
So yes, they will utterly break your minds to assert their authority and win at all costs and all based on zero factual evidence and base their findings on pseudoscience and claptrap that is used to bash parents up and down the country in these illegal courts.
And a reminder too that the UK operates these family courts illegally, the UK was the first signatory to the UN charters that protects our legal rights and that free, open and fair courts be afforded to every man, woman or child, this is simply ignored by the government and I would say that since the inception of these star chambers that every judgement is flawed, illegal and classed as a crime against humanity as the Nuremberg trials indeed ruled that forced adoption was a crime against humanity but despite being bound by this ruling it is totally ignored by the state.
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This is 100% true.
various authorites tend to ignore other authority. depts do ignore other depts. they simply could not care less who accuses them of wrongdoing they simply ignore it and carry on.
this is the underlying problem of why the System is to dysfunctional.
there is no watch dog. the LGO are pretty much useless.
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It was the constant lies I found very hard to deal with. From every quarter going it was cover up and colluded lies. Personally I’m not going away until I get my justice.
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Good for you Alan,
as President Roosevelt said just after the Pearl Harbor attack.
“We will not give up, Or give in!”
another great quote from him was.
“I ask you to judge me by the enemies I have made.”
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This has happened to me too,my grandchildren have been taken too through my daughters violent relationship,the social workers knew of her getting back with him but were happy to leave him in the family home with my daughter and grandchildren.
They knew he hurt her 4 years ago yet ignore this and put my daughter and kids in danger.
Courts and ss blame me for not protecting my daughter and grandchildren to cover up their mistake and courts believe them.
The result is I cant keep them safe and they wont give them back to me,they’ve managed to get placements orders and adoption.
I’m left with the depression,had to sell my home to fund courts,solicitors etc,and I’m left to support my daughter stop her from killing herself which shes attempted numerous times.
I’m distraught with the system,we have no hope in getting our children back,its so wrong because those kids will be affected by this aswel as us as a family.
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That’s how me and my wife felt and still do and don’t quite understand how we was not allowed 2 but 6 months later got to keep our 3rd child then a year later we had our son and now our oldest daughter is 18 we are still not to contact her as they would stop contact between the other siblings we believe that our oldest daughter don’t know what is going on she is not to be included in the sibling contact
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if to call a spade a spade… is what going on really far from some Nazi practices? To forceful;l separate parents , children, siblings? and folks just watching in disbelief and continue to tolerate and complain.
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The LA SS are without doubt comparable to Nazi Germany.
separating Children from Parents was normal Policy back then just like it is for the SS today.i think generally Social workers will do what they are told to keep their jobs.especially when Senior social workers are paid £700 pw and team managers over £900 pw.
the problem is in the Management of Childrens services.
there is no honesty and compassion within the Managerial depts of the SS. those people would have parents executed if they had the power to do it.
this is the caliber of people you are dealing with make no mistake.
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Children being Unlawfully cut off from their birth parents and siblings is common place. Councils do whatever they like and there is pretty much nobody to hold them accountable.
its a violation of human rights and also mental Cruelty yet the Govt well aware of the situation do absolutely Nothing.
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This I so relate to. HIgh court and social services are bullies who use mental abuse and aggressive behaviour as well as incorrect information not necessarily for the benefit of the family and child but for the current “in thing” and the budget/politics.
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Am going through it right now
Would love to speak to Charles pragnell as needed desperately.
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You may be able to contact him through the National Child Protection Alliance. I understand that he has had to limit his involvement for health reasons, but they may still be in touch. natchildprotectalliance@gmail.com or through ncpa.org.au
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It does affect you years later. I don’t think we’re ever over it properly. Someone I was with for a number of years had me that worn down I struggled to get out of it. In the end, it was my one child asking me to not stop with him, which made me listen and act on it. A Solicitor had told me I could have had him up for I think it was called mental cruelty. But in the end, I got out and regained full custody of my children and the house. I had not coped well at the many hostels my children and I would end up in and the authorities and school and doctors were all aware of the situation. In the end, I’d had all forms of abuse used against me and I’d had to learn to defend myself. It was that or risk my own life and I’d had enough seeing my children suffer all this.
Then I went on to have another child who got hurt in play by a partner at the time. It was in the newspapers it wasn’t deliberate (Judge’s findings at Crown Court). Long story short, I got pursued by Social Services, after (and again) I’d sought help and support on a temporary basis. Like ‘name witheld’ has commented, I was put through the same and it was menacing and barbaric. The bullying and pressure I was put under off Social Services often on a daily basis with calls saying do this, do that, come up the office, sign this section 20, told my son (a toddler) doesn’t even like me then made a laughing stock of because I refused to sign any and all forms at meetings, at children’s homes or foster carers homes and so on.
I’d had the one Social Worker go behind my back, to a third party professional telling them false or misconstrued information about me. Then when they (third party) ignored the phone to me as I recall and I went to speak to them outside their office they reacted like I was in the wrong for even questioning it (when they knew the real truth) because the person who told me had no way of knowing. I hadn’t told anybody it was so trivial. All it was, one of my children had to climb up on the porch roof once when they came home. I’d started a job and was kept behind later than expected so I was tired the next morning, yet it got twisted round into saying it happened more than once. This was the start of the Social Worker lying about me and she’d changed from Snow White all nicety nice to Cruella De Vill on me overnight, as they often do that with parents. She treated me absolutely horrible and my son had already told professionals it was once it happened, but the Social Worker had persisted on telling this third party Professional (nothing whatsoever/no one whatsoever) to do with my Case that it had happened more than once. So when they lie about children, this upsets a parent all the more.
I knew I was being set up, I knew anything I did was never going to be good enough and I soon learnt that no matter what I did goalposts would keep being changed. Even pushing me to tears, to telling the Social exactly what I thought of her on the phone (when she pressured me/and I’d swear and hang up) I always found it strange this never went down in her reports with the latter.
In the end I made a Complaint, then took it to Stage 2 late because for one thing, her Manageress had told me I couldn’t take it anywhere higher, when I asked her. This was some years ago, we didn’t have any support services or like Social Media the same then. I was concerned my Complaint got looked into biased.
To my horror and suprise, the same woman I’d had investigate the Complaint who’d been out twice to my house had worked her way up and she was the one responding to my Stage 2 Complaint about the way, she’d handled it.
Then, as if that wasn’t enough, only fairly recently, I learnt my Complaint had got somewhere partly after Stage One as I recall after all. I learnt this in writing years later, but not at the time. This is something else, which is often the case. So parents suffer further trauma then, because they know they’ve been had over a barrel and so extremely deceived.
The final straw then, was finding out the truth that just like I’d knew, I had confirmation I had been set up from family members who confirmed this to me, who said family members wrote me Witness Statements explaining how the Social Worker had told them, this was her plan (Just not in so many words) but the process of what would happen with me at Court (the parent with parental responsibility, whom the Social Worker should have told me first if this was her dirty secret plan) and the one witness statement, backed the other one up. Of course I complained, because I found out at Reserved Judgement Stage after I’d already took the stand and gave my evidence.
So Social Services knew, Solicitor knew, barrister(s) knew, the Guardian knew, medical professionals knew. Oh, I told the whole world whoever would listen. Only Professionals do not listen. The Guardian said, of yes you’ve already told me the Social Worker lies. Even my local hopeless MP Jacqui Smith knew, I was being treated so badly before all this with the lies and her response was ‘I don’t even know you.’ At that, my sister said ‘Come on Shell, we’re wasting our time here.’
The biggest worst cruelist thing said Social Worker did (and I did go on to suffer a major nervous breakdown) was to disclose to Family how she was going to have my son off me for adoption no matter what! AND she was going to do it by using mental health against me. The very emotional abuse she had caused me.
In the end I snapped and committed a minor assault on said Social Worker and I’m not proud. I believe her Manageress played a part in it letting both the Social Worker and me as a parent down in hindsight; because when both the one who told me about the breach, with the third party Professional and I went straight to see the Social Worker after I pulled said so called Professional up outside her Office the Social Worker’s Manageress was there. I was getting taunted by both of them, who found it funny and said Manageress encouraged her Social Worker by joking how she (SW) wouldn’t lie whilst said Social Worker and Manageress were joking how like what would you do with me/me without you so I was basically been laughed at in my face.
A premature Threshold got done, when I exercised my PR to have my son home, with a Care Plan in place drafted up by my Solicitor as advised by Counsel all done in a timely manner (So before Reserved Judgement stage) and I got FALSELY or misdiagnosed with EUPD where 5 Professionals (not all medically qualified) agreed with it!
After a lot of hard work over the years and it has all exhausted me, my son voted with his feet. He is finally home now. But I went to seek help for Counselling.
I wanted to know if I’m suffering with PTSD. Here is what I’ve had to do to help myself so far…
Online Silvercloud, it got decided that CBT online is no good to me (how I proved false diagnosis wrong last time ‘re Family Court) I am traumatised how badly I’ve been treated with the so called justice system after I still lost my youngest of 4 children to forced ‘alleged’ adoption.
Then it was decided I’m best seeing someone one to one for CBT. I turned up there for a few sessions. Told I made a good start, then told CBT won’t help me, I need Physc…. services particularly to help me with the grieving side.
Then, I got referred for a 6 week course all related, to then see if I need the help from s Physc. It was also outside my local area. For now I have gave up and feel extremely let down all over again. I struggle to go anywhere out my local area as it is. Like the mum who was only fit enough to parent 3 of her 4 children and those who live local to us, don’t know our story as well as we do. Although I get no flack from the Community, it still hurts deeply knowing how wronged our family have been. I still keep seeing my son as a little boy, feeling he is lost out there somewhere and I need to see him to check he is ok. Only I know in another way he’s not out there, because he is with me now all grown up.
Please, please do stop closed Contact, open up face to face Contact for all, allow them videos and photos because our brains cannot process such a huge gap! There are also further identity crisis issues caused to my family because so much inaccurate information has been held on my family and all too often (for many families) it comes out way too late!
We have NOWHERE to turn and we get NO real, genuine help. Yet my GP told me only yesterday, she thinks seeing a Physc will benefit me. But how much more red tape do we keep needing to get said help.
So yes, all the ones responsible and guilty of their crimes have caused me my trauma. None of them are sorry.
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You have said it as it is we can completely understand and relate to this
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Thank you xx
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Still going through this myself so I know exactly what uve been going through,its like it never ends,you have to keep picking yourself up constantly over and over,its like we are fighting a losing battle,the trauma is beyond belief,I am living this and it’s like hell.
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Not so very long ago in historical terms very supposedly wise and saintly men who were either catholic or protestant priests burn’t each other alive as heretics for différences in religious belief.
Nowadays the torture is more subtle as social workers ,judges,guardians and psys combine together to destroy happy loving families to prevent future emotional abuse predicted by those who profit from it !
SAD UK TO BE THE LEADERS IN SUCH BARBARIC BEHAVIOUR
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This is so true the harm that is being carried out on parents, relations, is cruelty that you can’t put words to. We don’t live in the 1800s but it seems some politicians want to make vulnerable or less well of people, parents even children feel they have no part in society, I talk to people walk around on the bus. A sad story on Friday 18th January 2019 , late into the evening I walked down George street in Croydon, I came across a little frail lady sitting on the ground freezing cold, concerned for her wellbeing I spoke to her. Angela was her name aged 52, I gave her some money to buy something warm to eat, I asked her how long have you been homeless 8 months she replied, the weather was freezing that night, she told me she had a cardboard box to sleep in, born and bred in Croydon she said,, I looked across the other side of the road big advert displayed. Building apartments for corporate buyers. Poor Angela another victim not a drug addict not an alcoholic, just an ordinary lovely honest person I had the pleasure of meeting. I just pray to God real help comes her was that being, A warm home, Angela’s home, not asking much is it Croydon council.
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This article acutely resonates with me.
I perceived the court system and the personnel within it, as emotionally damaging. Notably, when you raise this issue all professionals band together and effectively protect themselves- giving the impression you are deluded. Have I been harmed by this system – yes, and at points, I have things that trigger memories and responses from that bleak time. These will stay with me forever. It has been extreme both in and outside the court. I empathise with you all as it is difficult for someone who has not experienced this to understand given the helpful and caring image of the social work profession etc. In all fields there are good practitioners and not so good, combine this however with a family court system that is not for for purpose and it can turn the good ones very easily.
Peace to all xxx
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This is dam right true
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The good ones are bullied, state what the director wants or your out of a job.
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I heard similar stories of injustice reported on BBC 4 today. It is time that the legalities operating within our country were skewed towards delivering justice for the ordinary people.
So much of what happens in our courts of law is conducted in terms that date back to the Saxon-Norman period of Britain; which may sound very impressive, but requires translation by very expensive lawyers and wastes far too much time while failing to deliver what we all seek in those courts – justice.
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I heard similar stories of injustice reported on BBC 4 today. It is time that the legalities operating within our country were skewed towards delivering justice for the ordinary people.
So much of what happens in our courts of law is conducted in terms that date back to the Saxon-Norman period of Britain; which may sound very impressive, but requires translation by very expensive lawyers and wastes far too much time while failing to deliver what we all seek in those courts – justice.
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The system is inherently flawed, designed to protect the authorities that use it and disadvantage the families it’s meant to protect!
SS exaggerate the details of a families problems. The lie and falsify to make the circumstances meet the threshold criteria for application to initiate court proceedings. The parents are villianised, stereotyped, their reputations tarnished and all the positive aspects of their patenting ignored. Most often it’s families who are struggling with poverty, addiction of domestic violence they target. Where the Children Act states that support must be first provided to keep families together. The support is in the main, inaqequate and doesn’t address the root of the problem.
I fully agree that the system is causing more damage and harm to the Children and parents it is supposed to help!!
As a parent currently going through Care Proceedings, I’m feeling victimised, traumatised, exhausted and alienated!!
I’m working on my own research into the system, in the hope that I can bring it’s failings to light and lobby for change!
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I wish you all the best as I have failed we have a case for wrongfull removal of one of our kids but no solicitor will touch it same as we have the right to appeal the adoption but how could we when we was not told of the adoption hearing yet again was to that it’s a fraudulent adoption but can’t find no one who will take this case on this system stinks and I for one have had enough of this system they are child trafficking but they have the law on there side how could this be legal they told our girls that they was removed due to us being on drugs I tried to prosecute them but no one would touch it but yet David Cameron said if a social worker is found to be lieing they would be prosecuted for the fact but yes NO JOY they removed 1st girl because me and my wife didn’t have a stable home they said they would pay for private housing but went back on what they said they removed 2nd girl from us because we split up they said if we got back together they would give 2nd child back but never did
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its always good to hear of parents wanting to challenge the corrupt SS system but John Hemming and many others have campaigned for change in Parliament for many years yet the corrupt SS still stand strong.
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You are another victim of injustice one of thousands please try to stay strong, Engand will rise oneday against whats going on. Child stealing by local authorities to get them to the child traders, thats whats going on. Muti-agency was a snide move by social services, you dont really know whos who and who your dealing with. Council or private ltd company. Just like Acheiving for children ltd run by at least 5 south london councils. Royal borough of Kingston, Royal Borough of Richmond and the other 3 councils. Adoption and longterm fostering. Then there the . adoption fostering company in slough, I investigated it full of fraud and corruption by comes over as this fairytale company that wouldnt blink an eye lid Links start at Bradford down to rest of the southern half of England even as far as Southamton. Linkedin site join it and see all those child traders plying their trade. Even social workers with there companies.
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This is completely true. I’m not going into detail as it’s far too long but yep they screwed me and my whole family up on false allegations of delusional disorders. Need I say more? The system is corrupt through and through.
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Unfortunately our corrupt Family Courts that not only condone but actively promote the abuse of our children and the denial of contact, while they see fit to work in a ‘Winner Tales All’ system. We need the urgent implementation of the ‘Presumption of Shared Residence’ as was supposed to be the basis of the Children Act 1989 and this should be implemented immediately with it being effective at the 1st Court hearing, and end this complete misuse of Cafcass and Contact Centres. What also ahs to end is the epidemic of false allegations of dv and harassment, up 300% in some areas, so that dirty solicitors can receive money by fraudulently obtaining legal aid for their clients. Either legal aid should be available to all in Family matters, or not at all. The current mass sue of false allegations in order to deny the other parent any contact with their children is going to result in all allegations of dv and harassment having to be treated as suspicious and then the real victims will not get help that they need
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Why do you always use a woman as the victim. My son’s ex has caused him to have a serious Mental breakdown through false allegations to the police to enhance her case to alienate us from my Grandson. A two day criminal trial as the police didn’t investigate the allegations properly. A whole year of my families life in turmoil due to my son and l wanting contact with his son. Police and authorities need to realise the game playing behind these allegations. The phycological damage this has caused my Grandson may not be apparent yet , l have no doubt it will one day though.
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I am in no way related to Natasha other than having read, lurked and posed several times. I completely understand your frustrations regarding the system and false allegations, they are extremely damaging. That said your criticisms are misdirected at the writer of this site, who simply wishes to raise the profile of family justice issues . It’s difficult to direct your frustrations at the system, as there is an inherent lack of accountability which is a key issue. False allegations are horrendous and I hope your family is coping in aftermath. Let’s come together, rather than having gender be a barrier to improving this system.
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The system is so outdated and doesn’t check things accurately and social services are all about budget.not enough is being done about mothers and parent alienation,it is such a serous thing,not much wonder so many children have mental health issues
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Why is there no mention of fathers and suicide rates due being denied contact. The amount of fulse allegations made by both professionals and parents which is encouraged
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Hi Bob, we wrote a piece on this recently. Unfortunately there is very little information on fathers in this context, but we hope researchers will start to look into this area. https://researchingreform.net/2018/12/10/suicide-rate-up-to-five-times-higher-among-mothers-whose-children-enter-foster-care/
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I am not sure where to start.
1) SS thought a birthmark was a bruise and I was labelled so bad in all the reports and it stuck. The father was a bed of roses. We were still together at the time.
2) Father masterbated multiple times on sofa during the day while baby sitting. I know she was on his chest for 1 of those instances, the court fact finding listened to 1 of the 5 audio recordings and determined she was in the room and she did not add to his sexual pleasure…even though he loves an audience. Father did not feel confortable around my family after I told them of this and other sexual acts (not able to prove) and Judge has asked me to apologise to my family for refering to him as a pedo.
3) Told child can learn all my culture in the NW of England, despite me being the only one I know that speaks our language and I have met about 5 others over the last 15 years. My language can’t be learnt on line at this point in time. I know one other from my country.
4) Then there is the DV and stalking that CAFCASS says he can’t have done.
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This is so true as I have endured this for many years. My la tried to remove my severely disabled son by making up false accusations which went on for years. I found evidence of illegal action from them, was and still am bullied by them. What they did was appalling & affected myself & my family even after them dropping their false accusations. High court ignored evidence of lies from ss & la. I wush I had a good solicitor to expose all of this & change things for the better.
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The court s are nuthing but bullies that live in the dark ages about time victims start taking the authority to court for causing so much suffering
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Ss torn my family apart because my wife’s father a register sex a offended. We’re guilty of being related to him . This is wrong please help with advise as I’m nit guilty of any wrong doing .
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Hi, if you’d like to talk a little more about your case, you’re very welcome to email me on Sobk13 at gmail dot com. Natasha Phillips.
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I agree so who do we get intouch with to complain and do something about it? Since February my life has been turned upside down and I am usually a confident person.
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This link may be of interest: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/legal-rights/complaining-about-health-and-social-care/ombudsman/#.XQJB0tNKj_Q
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Why is it all about mothers. I’ve been stopped from seeing my child 3 times answered to false accusation then cleared last time Cafcass stated to major things. One was mum was unfairly influencing my daughter and needed to give emotional support to love both families. The other was to enforce it both ignored. A lot ove this report is based on women what about dads who get put through it and answer to lies.
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A high number of us especially mothers are not only suffering from trauma of them removing children from our care both even at birth but we are dying. The cases can be use of old or new fabricated mental illness from violent or bad marriages and relationships as an excuse to continue such violation of human rights and the actual protection of mental health. It is a very scary and unhealthy situation. I was looking for something else but I found this very truthful article.
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Thank you for your comment, and I’m sorry you’ve been through all that you have. You may have been looking for research into suicide rates among mothers who lose their children to the care system. If so, you can find it here: https://researchingreform.net/2018/12/10/suicide-rate-up-to-five-times-higher-among-mothers-whose-children-enter-foster-care/
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Wow Natasha, thank you. The sucide thing is real. That’s what they drive mothers into by taking away their children. I am so grateful that you are bold enough to address this alarming issue to help here. I saw more older articles on same issues. Unlike UK in the past that protects mothers with their children when they used to know the consequences of doing otherwise, I think UK for some time now is having a serious system breakdown with virtually everything and it is quite very unbelievable.
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It’s disgusting! Mine were taken using old mental health problems and I was made out to be the abuser when it was my ex! He dragged me across the floor by my hair, tried to choke me with his hands on my neck and hit me, all allegations I retracted because he threatened to hurt me more 😭 now he has my son and my daughter is in a care home 😭! I had a 6 month supervision order February 2018 and my ex still hasn’t finished registration so I’ve been unable to book contact and my daughter has made 2 allegations of sexual intercourse at 9 which is abuse to me! And guess what…. no reply from social about my concerns about this and I haven’t seen my kids since before Xmas and I’ still got their birthday presents 😭 the judge couldn’t hear with the heater on and my abusive mother has been given more visits than me! Absolutely insane because I’m guessing that the judge (recorder) didn’t ever read the non molestation order I had to get against my mother when my daughter was a baby! Disgusting system! They only want their bonus for removing kids and if you end up a broken person, GUESS WHAT??? They don’t care!!!!! And I’m a broken mother who bursts into tears when I see a child or even a baby animal! My father a strong proud father admitted that he too cries when he sees children on the tv, he’s never had mental health problems! Social really have a lot to answer for!!!!
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JUDICIAL IMPUNITY/LEGAL SYSTEM ABUSE
WHISTLEBLOWER LAW FIRM /LAW CLINIC/HUMAN RIGHT DEFENDER:
Judges Above The Law- No Rule Of Law-No Remedy At Law
International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights (ICCPR) set April 2, 2020 for America to report on its ICCPR compliance.
https://www.prlog.org/12734665-un-human-rights-council-poised-to-address-prospect-of-judicial-impunity-in-america.html
Human Right Defenders?
https://www.ohchr.org/_layouts/15/wopiframe.aspx?sourcedoc=/documents/countries/lac/hrdamericas/nationaljudicialconduct_disabilitylawproject.docx&action=default&defaultitemopen=1
https://judicialcriminal.com/
Book/amazon: Judicial Criminals The greatest fraud upon American society America’s Legal System
https://www.amazon.com/dp/b07g4k3qfy?ref_=k4w_oembed_ysuooh1t7ab8kj&tag=kpembe-20&linkcode=kpd
See Case No. 3:13-Cv-1944 Cab Blm Judge Cathy Ann Bencivengo First Amended Complaint
1. Violations Of The Civil Rights Act Of 1871 (42 U.S.C. §§ 1983, 1985, 1986)
2. RACKETEERING AND CORRUPT ORGANIZATIONS ACT OF 1970 (18 U.S.C. § 1962);
3. FALSE ADVERTISING (15 U.S.C. § 1125);
https://www.judicial-discipline-reform.org/
Family law reform /parental alienation https://lnkd.in/gihabdk
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2018/03/14/family-court-secrecy-judges-get-away…
https://www.phillytrib.com/news/family-court-judge…
When Lisa Mothee and her fiancé went before Family Court Judge Lyris Younge last September, the 31-year-old mother of five thought she was just going for a compliance hearing.
https://nclalegal.org/–“to defend constitutional freedoms– primarily against the Administrative State.”
SETTLEMENT AGREEMENTS:
https://voelkerrechtsblog.org/with-a-diplomatic-solution-there-would-be-no-loser/
Cite as: Brian D. Lepard, “Why Customary International Law Matters in Protecting Human Rights”, Völkerrechtsblog, 25 February 2019, doi: 10.17176/20190225-133150-0.
https://healthimpactnews.com/2019/beverly-hills-harvard-trained-doctor-sues-county-of…
Harvard-trained Beverly Hills Doctor Mom Has 4 Children Kidnapped by LA County DCFS. Her oldest child has since turned 18 and aged out of the system. This week, Dr. Spell and her son filed a $750 million lawsuit against LA County and some social workers. The Epoch Times has published an article about her case.
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I’ve been trying too seek help on my 3 grandchildren being taken into foster care the case took 10 months which I was put to live with my daughter to supervise my daughter was not allowed to be 1 second alone with the kids she got arrested boxing day drunk and dissorerly yet from that date until the day kids were taken inaug 23 we never saw a social worker yet they gave my daughters ex non surperviced contact 3 days a week 3 till 7.30 who had been too jail for stalking and threats to kill twice in front of the children as wouldn’t supervise the passovers and my daughters ex who is very aggressive and needs to be in control kept just walking in the house social services wouldn’t answer calls or offered any help the kids were taken because there may be emotional harm with the arguing that they see through the contact my poor grandchildren must be so confused and heartbroken they come from a loving family I can’t stop crying I constantly have suicidal thoughts because I failed those kids even tho I was placed with the children 24/7 I failed assessment in the Feb false accusations which I gave evidence and proof they were lies but it was never heard I needed my own solicitor which I couldn’t afford and I wasn’t aware till it was to late and its been 8wks we have had 1 conference meeting at 7wks nobody turned up for the 1st and in that meeting they said the kids are staying in care until they are 18 no offer of any reasonscwhy or strategy and goals we could reach to getting kids home no counselling or anything just a date for the next meeting and the foster carer saying that the kids are a credit to you well behaved polite and loving and caring can somebody please get this case investigated iam thinking that my kids were taken god forbid for another reason because they created the situation and fuelled it with lies and totally sided with the father who had mentally abused my daughter for 14yrs please help please
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Hi there, I’m so sorry to hear about what’s happened to you and your family. You should be able to access free legal support through legal aid: https://www.gov.uk/check-legal-aid Lawyers may not always be sympathetic but if you get a compassionate solicitor they can help you.
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Family court and social services deeply misogynistic. My controlling ex has broken contact and is controlling our 13 yr old daughter, ss and family court says his current abuse of her has nothing to do with his history of abuse of me. Have had to go down route of formal complaint just to get evidence from dv orgs, drs reports, perp programmes into ss reports.
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this relates so much to the last three year ive had . and i was furtherd bullied though the court from my controlling ex partner . and i did cone though the other end but ill never be the happy person i was . the police tje social worker and even the court prolonged the suffering . when all i wanted was to escape my ex clutches till i was strong enough to fight back. instead i was . what i felt like at the time attacked from every angle and clobberd buy the system . but i came though and survived but it should have had to be that sole destroying
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Couldn’t agree more children need their mothers but are put through emotional and mental abuse in care homes or safe houses where their abused through being differant creed or going through stages of torment by people uk goverment got on their payroll and its the courts claiming to give a toss doing it to line their own pockets I’d personally put c4 under social services in uk in bid to save woman killing themselves cause their kids are taken for no particular reason other than opinions of abusers in the system
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3 years if meanatal health and no suport of police i ave completed every type of counculilong so i no longer have to see my ex . the use of contavt centers and get better and forced into a room with him .
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“Family courts” are not fit for purpose. I am speaking from a professional point of view as well as being a grandparent/parent whose daughter was was “dragged” through the system. Dragged through by her ex-partner who was/is contrilling and abusive. partner. He had financial resources for legal representation. My daughter didn’t. Therefore it was all about what he wanted/demanded. He got what he wanted. An absolute travesty of a system.
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Social services and directors in high positions, years of free to do what they like families, children have become their target exspecially from low income parents. Studying the background of many Childrens directors I have found they have more power to do what they like than our own Prime Minister Boris Johnson. Its been at least 30 years of corruption in Social services and it will take our prime minister many years to sort this ever growing monster. I could name many of the corrupted involved in fraud with taking children from good homes but with no legal force behind me, im wasting my time. Corruption rules social services and thier licum army of private ltd companies, it will take years to stop them or arrest them.
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It’s costing lives literally and potentially. Could it really get any worse xx
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It is getting worse more babies and children are being taken many stolen, multi millionairs running fostering agencies rule Parliment and many local councils.
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They need to go and catch the real criminals Xxxx
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I jave been conrinusltt dragged to court .and forses ro be in room qith the man qho raped and tourxhed me i keep being dorced as he xotinues to make applications ro court wven though a final court order was made and he been allowed ro do so it a never ending cycle of abuse and i xant find anymore strenth ro contin there no real supposrt 3 years this has gone and xirculed rhe xourt to point i rayher taks my own life rhan me in room qith jim ..as drasrix as sounds at rhis monute in tome its my only eacape
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Hi, thank you for your comment. Please don’t feel hopeless, there are always people who want to help. I’m adding some numbers for you below:
Legal Action for Women – http://legalactionforwomen.net/ – 020 7482 2496
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/ – National Domestic Violence Helpline – 0808 2000 247
The Mix, free information and support for under 25s in the UK – 0808 808 4994
National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Helpline – 0800 999 5428
Samaritans (24/7 service) – 116 123
Rights of Women advice lines, there are a range of services available: https://rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-advice/advice-lines/
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They did just this to me they bullied me relentlessly stole my children and I now have PTSD symptoms as a result they go too far have no humanity and make accusations when parents are put under immense pressure stuck in a room being monitored for two years is like being mentally abused its controlling and upsetting and highly stressful it’s also unnatural situations they put my kids with a mentally abusive man and the social worker was so bad she gloated and lied and was highly personal about everything to do with me they also asked for a lot of changes to improve situations but when I found work they abused me for this I felt like I couldn’t win no Matter what I did
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This is so true as they did the same to us. no matter how much you bend over backwards for them its never enough. doing the parenting courses is nothing more than a smokescreen to keep you quiet and thinking you are making positive progress towards having your kids returned but its all a scam. they plan whole thing from the start.Judges are well aware of the LA plans from day one yet they let parents go through months of proceedings thinking that they have a chance to put their case via their legal team but its all a scam.you are set to lose from day one.
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Not shure why my name has been withheld.
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Dear posters, names are withheld in order to comply with reporting regulations in family law cases. As a site, we cannot publish details which could lead to the identification of children or their families.
As we are not always aware of which posters’ cases are still live or include what are effectively gagging orders, we have to err on the side of caution.
However, if your case is no longer live, and no restrictions are in place, we are happy to publish the names of posters, after seeing documentary evidence which confirms the above, and also receiving formal consent from any children involved, where appropriate. This is not a one size fits all process, but we hope this explains our position.
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Our case is no longer live, and we have no restrictions in place.
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I’m afraid we can’t accept a written statement. As per our note, we will need to see the case files and get confirmation from any children involved where appropriate. Thanks.
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Im not really shure what you mean by confirmation from any children involved. and ive spoke of these sort of things to do with the SS many times on this site.as have many others. if your site is going to be tightening up on free speech then there wont be much point commenting in future.
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Thanks for your comment. We have to follow the law in order to stay operational, and that’s our priority as this platform is for families. Our posters have been able to say what they think since the project launched, however as an outlet we cannot remove names and identifying details without legitimate confirmation that we can do this.
For the project at least, this is mostly about protecting the children involved and ensuring that their privacy isn’t breached. There are instances where we remove restrictions, for example if children ask us to, or if we can see the case in question is of public interest. I’m sure you can appreciate though, that we can’t remove all restrictions without seeing documentary evidence first. That said, you are welcome to stop posting on this site at any time.
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It has to be fact, published facts before names can be mentioned
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I have post-traumatic stress disorder diagnosed before the family court but it has worsened my children they were 9 and 10 live with me they separated my youngest child who was 5 to go and live with man who raped me and meant to have contact something happened we haven’t seen her for nearly a year when we did he was bleeding in her vagina area and nothing was done I was then told they would take my kids away if I said anything these things happen this is the justice system
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I had a judge in the family court who based on social worker assessment put my kids short term Foster care. I was then diagnosed with mental health problems, the judge never made social worker to help me to find the appropriate therapy she went onto my kids in long term Foster care.
I fought through found therapy completed it reapply to court for my children to be returned but because social worker solicitor wrote a statement saying she had heard i had a relapse with no evidence and they persuade a family member to make up a lie which was proven to not be true.
The judge refused the discharge care order it like her and social worker join teams against parents.
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I’m incredibly sorry to hear about your experience. Thank you for your courage in sharing it.
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Sorry whats happened to you, there are many mums in the same boat as you. I have just found out a local authority have been using in court a solicitor that was struck off by sra , a criminal act against innocent people , how do you stop who do you report it to, there seems to no one willing from the legal proffeshion or the police to take up on this criminal finding by a local authority. Cafcass in my mind should be closed down, and family courts and put into the criminal courts where you will get a fairer trial. Keep strong and in envestigated all those involved in your case, your be surprized what you find x
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This is what happened to me Removed my child put him with the person who abused us both dragged me through court complained about my mental health and then went for an adoption order I’m still in this process and will fight until the end but I know I won’t will againt the system and a rich adoptive family lined up Wheres the justice in that
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I’m so sorry x
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Here here, where is the justice
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i am not coping at all ….i can not take much more
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I’m so sorry. We have a lovely, supportive community on this blog so please feel free to engage with them. If you need any support, you’re welcome to email at Sobk 13 at gmail dot com. This is Natasha, the founder of the site.
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My depression and anxiety got worse thanks to the corrupt courts we have in great Britain
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[edited] social services took my to the family courts with my son with Autism, due to the care proceedings and my social worker [edited] how he played on false allegations behind my back to just take my son. I also tried to protect my son by leaving the area. But social services and the police how worked with him tried me like a criminal, due to they put me on the news and all over the internet for kidnapping my son. [edited] social services and the family courts let me down by granting my ex violent partner and his family Special Guardianship order. So really [edited] social services and the family court have cause me a lot of emotional distress and my family. They shouldn’t get away with breaking up happy families. And encouraging ex violent partners families to take our children because they only want the money they get from the court when granted that order. And the family courts should be closed down because they don’t help keeping happy families together, they just encourage the corruption. You can show this public because the law has to change for mothers losing their children for nothing.
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Anyone know more details of a Dr. Paul Jefferis – Court appointed ‘expert’ [edited] with [edited] reports that don’t reflect your children!
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We had a Psychologist by the name of Ray Murphy. he produced a 70 page report within 3 days in which he condemned us without even interviewing us. he was paid thousands for this plus expenses. Easy money for these despicable people.
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