Parents who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse are only too often victims a second time when they are exploited by the ruthless adoption and fostering industries.
“If you were sexually abused as a child there is a strong risk that you will abuse your own children” We cannot take that risk so we shall go to court and get your children adopted by parents we feel we can trust………..Enjoy your last contact with your kids as we shall arrange a lovely party for you with balloons!………….
Experts should concede that victims can learn from their experiences and becoming better citizens. After all, forgiving may be part of the mantra preached, but forgetting the experience would prove the lesson was never learned in the first place.
For too many victims, their experiences are indelibly branded into their psyche. By society refusing to accept that experience can be a life-changing ‘university’ where victims may gain knowledge through these same experiences, it is subjecting them to another dose of purgatorial punishment.
Too much supposition on the part of experts often leads to outrageous theories because they may have no real experience of the trauma about which they pontificate; we can’t volunteer to get killed in order to experience death or murder; we have to empathise by trying to understand the human emotions involved. Sadly, if we get it wrong, the victim may suffer yet again.
There can be few hard and fast rules, other than trying not to be too dogmatic. Flexibility and compromise, combined with constant vigilance, are perhaps key to a more humane approach to catalogues of abuse.
More well qualified, and realistically trained case-workers and therapists are surely needed. Currently, there are too few who understand the significance of their differing roles. There is a lack of appreciation of what good therapists and care-workers can bring to their cases. The different roles of these professionals get blurred, because too often, they are not understood, nor their efficacy believed. Such specialists are few, with little appreciation of their potential value in our society because people underestimate the time needed to train professionals. It takes at least six years to become a doctor; even more to qualify as a specialist or consultant.
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Parents who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse are only too often victims a second time when they are exploited by the ruthless adoption and fostering industries.
“If you were sexually abused as a child there is a strong risk that you will abuse your own children” We cannot take that risk so we shall go to court and get your children adopted by parents we feel we can trust………..Enjoy your last contact with your kids as we shall arrange a lovely party for you with balloons!………….
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Experts should concede that victims can learn from their experiences and becoming better citizens. After all, forgiving may be part of the mantra preached, but forgetting the experience would prove the lesson was never learned in the first place.
For too many victims, their experiences are indelibly branded into their psyche. By society refusing to accept that experience can be a life-changing ‘university’ where victims may gain knowledge through these same experiences, it is subjecting them to another dose of purgatorial punishment.
Too much supposition on the part of experts often leads to outrageous theories because they may have no real experience of the trauma about which they pontificate; we can’t volunteer to get killed in order to experience death or murder; we have to empathise by trying to understand the human emotions involved. Sadly, if we get it wrong, the victim may suffer yet again.
There can be few hard and fast rules, other than trying not to be too dogmatic. Flexibility and compromise, combined with constant vigilance, are perhaps key to a more humane approach to catalogues of abuse.
More well qualified, and realistically trained case-workers and therapists are surely needed. Currently, there are too few who understand the significance of their differing roles. There is a lack of appreciation of what good therapists and care-workers can bring to their cases. The different roles of these professionals get blurred, because too often, they are not understood, nor their efficacy believed. Such specialists are few, with little appreciation of their potential value in our society because people underestimate the time needed to train professionals. It takes at least six years to become a doctor; even more to qualify as a specialist or consultant.
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