In a recent case in the High Court in which a mother battled relentlessly for years to recover her daughter from the care system, a judge has ruled that Article 8 rights, the right to a private life and family life, cease upon the creation of an adoption order.
The facts of the case are distressing, not least of all because of the opaque nature in which social services appear to have gone about assessing this mother, but a good summary of the case has been written by Marilyn Stowe, on her blog.
In care as a child herself, moved from foster home to foster home, the mother fell pregnant at 20. Her baby was removed from her care because she was deemed to be ‘not coping’ and soon after care and placement orders were made. Indirect contact by way of letter writing twice a year was put into place but this was reduced to once a year because social workers were uncomfortable with the mother’s inability to accept the adoption.
The mother sought contact, which was denied. She appealed the care and placement orders, several times and then took her case to the ECHR. All of these actions were unsuccessful. She also made separate claims for her own experience in care, which she felt had impacted upon her development significantly and was responsible for the difficulties she suffered with in adulthood. None of her efforts yielded contact time with her daughter.
The High Court, ruling upon whether Article 8 rights of biological parents remained intact post adoption, took the view that such rights did not survive an adoption order, and were in fact, terminated upon the order being made.
Of significance in this case is the testimony of one social worker, who astutely points out the very real and poignant impact of preventing contact entirely within adoption scenarios. On that point he notes:
“The adopters need to appreciate (in a socially-networked virtual world) that it is now almost inconceivable that A and Ms Seddon will not resume contact with each other at some stage during A’s adolescent/young adult years…. It is also likely one day that A will read the court papers concerning her history and her adoption. She will learn how vigorously her mother ‘fought’ to have her returned to her care, and how they were prevented from maintaining contact with each other. This could fuel her resentment and anger towards her adoptive family and be a disturbing experience for A, which could threaten her lifelong wellbeing.”
In all of the cases we have assisted on, this hallmark, a strong will to preserve a bond and fight for that parental connection when it is being denied, has been present. It highlights the folly of adoption which seeks to erase a child’s biological blueprint, an embedded history which cannot be denied and which grows stronger in an adopted child as they grow older, until the desire for that connection reaches the same profound yearning as that of the biological parents’.
It also exposes a weakness within the adoption process – adoption would be far less attractive to most if it meant keeping a connection with the biological parents. And so this ruling, if one were cynical, could be viewed as a convenient way to preserve the artificial boundaries imposed by modern-day adoption practices designed to make it more palatable.
Thank you to Jerry Lonsdale over at Court and Tribunal Solutions, for sharing the details of this case with us.
http://www.adoptionbirthmothers.com/known-consequences-of-separating-mother-and-child-at-birth-implications-for-further-study/
Known Consequences of Separating Mother and Child at Birth Implications for Further Study
Adoption similar to a death.
Adoption and suicide
There were reports in 1953 that adopted children manifested severe pathology including a preponderance of impulsive behavior, with characteristic ‘acting out’, both sexual and aggressive. (Eiduson and Livermore, 1953). Overt aggression and sexual acting out were also noted by Schechter who claimed, in 1964, that there was substantial evidence from many sources that the nonrelative adopted child may be more prone to emotional difficulties. In adopted adults he found more alcoholism, sexual acting out, and more suicide attempts.”
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So true Lady P!
A quick search on u tube will show adoption trauma has been known for decades and yet the needs of the system are put before the fundamental needs of the child. The Primal Wound should be on the reading list of anyone thinking of adopting!
What will also show up is that some adoptive parents return the child back into the system when they realise they can’t cope! In America they are just shutting down the despicable practice of rehoming! Trying to trace some of the children has proved impossible, as some kids were rehomed more than once or the adoption parentss didn’t even know who they were giving the child to, they just wanted to get rid of the child!
Some adopted kids are very unhappy and some have been abused! It’s known that adoption is a Traffickers gift! Recently I read that adoptees want their adoptions reversed…..!
It’s especially wrong to take children and have them adopted when they are wanted!.
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Here’s the thing, adoptive parents, and it’s not rocket science – once you become complicit in state-sponsored child trafficking then you should expect intrusion into your life by the child’s parents!
Furthermore, what an indictment of the State’s own abysmal parenting ability that, as so often, the failing parent, is themselves the product of the so-called “care” system!:
“placed in care when she was six and had lived in nine foster homes in 10 years.”
Hope Ms Seddon appeals – what nonsense for Peter Jackson to state that adoption extinguishes all rights to family life under s.8 Human Rights Act 1998. What on earth does he think s.51, Adoption & Children Act 2002 is all about?
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My heart goes out to mother and child. I can only hope the child is with reasonable humans that allow her to know, even help search. When thw time comes. Flood the net with videos, every birthday leave a birthday message, exmas easter. They cant remove everything. Salvation army uses to help these children find parents no the government has put a stop to that. Well that’s what the local authority say. Good old west Berkshire. Oblivious to the damage oe just grateful for it who knows.
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Article 8 does NOT make any exceptions in the case of adoptions to the right to family life but as usual uk judges make.up the law to suit their own agendas
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May I, as one who was adopted more-or-less at birth, and also one who has lost his only child through decisions made in the Family Court, (though not to adoption) put my own point of view on this?
I don’t disagree with any of the comments above, but the experiences of an adopted child can be positive, as mine were. I was lucky that my adoptive parents were always honest and approachable about my adoption; for as long as I can remember I’ve known I was adopted and the reasons why I was. Having met my birth family (over fifteen years ago now) there is no doubt in my mind that I have had many more advantages in life, a better education and more opportunity than any of them. The adoption was not ‘forced’, though my mother was so upset after I was taken away that she tried to get me back, but it was too late.
I think it was only after I lost my battle to have contact with my daughter that I realised truly what my birth parents must have gone through, even though it was their decision (losing my daughter was not mine. Ironic that the mother worked for an organisation that helped adoptees find their birth families!).
There are two sides of the coin to everything. I bear no resentment to either my adoptive parents or to my birth parents, both did what they genuinely thought best for me at the time. I don’t think I ‘acted out’ any resentment as a child, but it’s so long ago now I can’t remember! Both sets of parents are now dead so I can’t ask them. My brother was also adopted (from a different family) and I think he always had a chip on his shoulder about it – he’s dead now, too – so it really is a very difficult one, this. What is so demonstrably wrong is that children are still adopted when there is a loving birth family willing to care for them. I hope that one day soon a test case will be brought that will end this abhorrent practice. It is the same as child trafficking, and it’s well past time that the Social Services were brought to account for indulging in this practice. Forced adoption should mean forced imprisonment for the culprits!
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Roger, the trouble is that coin in loaded in favour of social workers following government edicts and the family courts make it legal! It’s not in the childs best interests but everyone else!
Adoption, when family members could take the child, is a henious practice. Social workers, who don’t know the family dynamics, or the family members make decisions that changes lives!
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I agree. In my case it was my birth parents who made the decision, not social workers. And I was very lucky. Putting children into care and/or having them adopted when there is birth family available and willing to look after them should be an imprisonable offence.
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Roger, when financial considerations/incentives are at the forefront of any decision there will be an automatic bias. I’m sure that didn’t happen in your case back in the day and that why it was successful but nowadays people are fostering/special guardianship/adopting simply because it pays the bills! Adoption has a different criteria in that it fills a need in the adoptive mother, not the child. Adoption from the care system usually follows fostering.
I heard one fosterer refer to a child as “That’s the one I’m fostering!” This was in response to asking which children were hers at a swimming pool. She pointed to her own child and gave her name! I suppose I’m back to the language used but since I was a stranger I didn’t need to know the other was a foster child, a simple name would have sufficed. Her language showed me she differentiated the two children which means she would favour her own child more in all other situations. She, like many others were fostering for financial gain. This became more apparent as the conversation continued!
With money becoming tight and an orchestrated bombardment of adverts for fosterers and adoptors it’s a given this will produce those seeking to make money. No checks are made on the financial status of potential fosters/adopters so it’s shameful that they are being accepted regardless of their motives!
It’s a crying shame that kids in care are not given questionnaires that have simple questions that would tell the truth of what it is really like to be in care. They could be filled out & sent back directly by the child, as opposed to loaded questions in front of the fosterers and social workers! The truth will never come out if a child feels they have to collude with the person looking after them!
The government who’s current mantra is adoption, adoption, adoption ignores the dissenting voices, even from the social workers, that adoption is not (always) best for the child. It’s just another route into trafficking. It’s all about the money!
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Indeed. It’s all about the money. It’s only about the money. It’s certainly not about the children.
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Roger, with regard to adoption there is a myth that the adoptive mother will somehow be better than the birth mother. A form of social engineering. I have no doubt there are some dreadful birth mothers but equally there are some dreadful adoptive mothers!
I still can’t get my head around children who were adopted who were then rehomed from Yahoo (& others) bulletin boards and handed over to complete strangers to get rid of them! Then I realise that’s exactly what happens when a child is taken from their mother by social workers and advertised and then adopted to complete strangers to get rid of them and it’s all state sanctioned and legal. Legalising an act doesn’t always make it right, it just makes it legal!
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Hi Dana,
I know. This is dreadful. The more I learn, the more lucky I realise I’ve been – for all my life. Thank God I wasn’t put into ‘care’. It’s the same principle with my estranged daughter. Anyone could move in and be a stepfather to her, she could see anyone – except me. And yet it is proved beyond any shadow of doubt that stepfathers, live-in lovers, boyfriends etc. are far more likely to abuse or harm her than a natural parent. It’s madness. Legal, but madness. I’ve asked judges, social workers, CAFCASS officers why they continue to operate as they do, knowing all this, and I’ve never received an answer. There are no answers. But they do it still. Still, they do it!
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